Brother in law interfering
Am I being dramatic?
My brother-in-law seems to be interfering with my parenting style. My two year old daughter began crying so I went down to her level and asked her what was wrong...she grabbed my hand and was taking me to where she wanted to go...I then asked her to stop crying and use her words and tell me what was wrong so that I could understand. My brother-in-law heard and said don't tell her to stop crying she can feel her emotions and I responded and said I did what I saw fit, I went down to her level I asked her what was wrong and I asked her to stop crying so I could understand what it was she needed therefore I asked her to stop crying so she could use her words and express her feelings through her words. He then proceeded to tell me that it wasn't right because again she needed to feel her feelings I eventually told him that she is my daughter and I do as I wish ...I perhaps could have worded that differently and said this is my form of parenting but I was so upset that the only thing that I could think of was saying she's mine and I'm going to do whatever I want. He responded back saying she doesn't belong to you she has feelings too etc etc am I being overprotective or would you call that good advice?
Another scenario:
My MIL bought him some pencil crayons and he said he didn't need them therefore gave them to my daughter. There are about 100 pencil crayons in the box...when she tries to bring them home and says "mine" he tells her "not everything is yours those are mine. You can take two home not the whole box". In my mind I just think you gifted her the box so it is her's and you have no right to tell her how many she can take home, if her mother allows her to take the whole box home then she can. I don't get it...
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definitely not any miscommunication as I repeated what I said to her at least twice to him...I'm wondering whether I was entitled to tell him to quit interfering in my parenting as he does it often.
My MIL bought him some pencil crayons and he said he didn't need them therefore gave them to my daughter. There are about 100 pencil crayons in the box...when she tries to bring them home and says "mine" he tells her "not everything is yours those are mine. You can take two home not the whole box". In my mind I just think you gifted her the box so it is her's and you have no right to tell her how many she can take home, if her mother allows her to take the whole box home then she can. I don't get it...
So maybe his delivery wasn’t the best, and he could have addressed it at a different time when everyone was calm. However, I also agree with what he said. I’m not suggesting you’re trying to stifle your child’s emotions, and I get that you were trying to understand what she wanted to say. But I would focus on comforting and calming first and then when she’s regulated a bit more she can tell you what’s going on. Because in her mind she hears “stop crying” and understands it as there’s something wrong with crying. Which I know isn’t what you meant! Hopefully that makes sense.
thank you, I totally agree with you and I agree I should change the way I deal with things however my concern is how her uncle interferes and comments on it rudely. The way he went about it was rude. So I'm just wondering if I'm being dramatic
I think you handled everything with your daughter amazingly. I don’t see the issue. You sounded like you were being very compassionate and trying to communicate with her. You know your daughter and how to help her. He has no right to have any input on your parenting with your child.
As for the crayons..wtf lol that sounds like he needs to feel some level of control? Idk that’s super weird to me.
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