baby daddy drama

So he's still dating his son's mom? Just want to make sure I understand

As much as its a really hard situation for you right now you cant really leave him off the birth certificate for that reason.. hope things get better for you x

It’s up to you of course but the birth of a child is a huge thing I’d probably allow that. It’s something you can’t take back in the future. My bd has another bm and he’s never missed the birth of any of the kids, he got on a plane with nothing but his phone and wallet to make sure he was at mine. The birth certificate is a big one, definitely look at the pros and cons of it bc there’s a bunch. As for taking the baby to see the other bm that’s unacceptable if you tell him you don’t want him to have your baby around her. But when baby is born you’ll have months before baby can really be away from you to go with dad or anyone else especially if you breastfeed.

yes he’s still intimate with her

So are you in a relationship with him? I’m confused? X

the thing is that he really hasn’t been there for me this whole pregnancy at all I get his son is a priority and he works all the time but he has him pretty much all the time and sees his bm and talks to her 24/7 all the time and is intimate with her and I see him when he decides to text me and see me. I don’t text him anymore because he doesn’t even respond when I do, we see each other to be intimate. I’m just feeling like my daughter doesn’t deserve to be born into a custody battle and doesn’t deserve to have to be around his bm for any reason

I personally think you should end any relationship with him especially if you didn't even know he was having sex with her and you at the same time. It's extremely risky to be having sex with a pregnant woman while also being with other people. I agree about looking into pros and cons about birth certificate. Maybe get him on child support when you can. I definitely agree to not letting him take your baby anywhere, I would say you can let the baby's brother meet baby on your terms. the baby doesn't need to meet his other bm

I feel you me and my BD lived in different states my whole pregnancy and after. Definitely weigh the pros and cons of everything and consider how your future child will see it. If you feel that he would be no help in the delivery room then go with your gut and have a different support person! Good luck and don’t stress, try your best enjoy the last few weeks before the sleepless nights.

I was in a similar-ish situation. BD was still seeing his ex, but not being intimate, but it seemed to me that he couldn’t let that connection go and that my baby and I were always going to be second. I told him I would want my baby around the woman,because After he told her that he has to leave that connection altogether,for us to build a family,she begged him back,and this man broke. So I left. I told him we will never be 2nd. Circumstances may be different,but evaluate what matters to you and your baby. What men don’t understand is that we women,are changed forever by pregnancy and being a mom. Nothing changes in the men’s body,lifestyle and mentality,but for us everything changes,and that we now put 1 human being before us,and that is our child. You will do the right thing, just keep your perspective.

yes we’re in a relationship but he’s still intimate with her also he I guess communicates with her more like everyday all day we really only talk for the 10 mins we need to to text each other where we want to meet up or what time we’re gonna see each other and we only see each other like once every month or 2

it’s such a hard thing to think about and weigh out I don’t even care about the child support I want no way for him to be able to take my baby to be around anyone that I don’t approve of not even secretly. she’s younger than me and I really can’t stand thinking about him using her to piss me off because he really would just take my child to be around her and make her think she’s really my babies step mother or something

I think that's a good reason to end it then, and if you're really okay with no support from him then you can leave him off the birth certificate and tell him he's never going to be allowed to take your baby anywhere without you. I understand that completely I wouldn't want my baby around her either because they are both sneaky and assholes for that 😭 im so sorry

thank you so much for this