Struggling with toddler

Is anyone else pregnant with second and starting to really struggle with looking after a toddler at same time. My daughter is 18 months, she’s become so clingy but I am finding picking her up painful and getting so tired so quickly now. Feel so guilty that I can’t do the usual things with her and worry that she’ll struggle when her sister arrives in 4 weeks time.

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Yes I hear you. my son is 21 months. Feeling exhausted. Getting out of the house morning and after lunch has helped alot..my husband doing the nights and early mornings has helped...

Yes, son is almost 2.5yo, he is super clingy and won't be held by his dad when out and about. I take the rest when I can and try and do more sit down activities, although he would rather run around lol, so not that successful. He currently has Hand foot and mouth, so he is calmer which helps, but would rather him be causing havoc!

Yes! 16 month old and my back is in pieces. We can only do our best 😊

Yes I’m with you 🫶🏽 my husband works away so we’ve just had 5 weeks and on the final 6 day countdown of solo parenting and 38 weeks pregnant 🙈 it’s certainly a lot harder than I ever imagined x

Our LG is 1 next week and today learned how to climb the sofa so I’m absolutely terrified to take my eyes off of her as she’s far quicker than me at 35 weeks 🫠

My son just turned one and I’m 36 weeks it’s not easy with another child so young and the mum guilt really kicks in but I’m just trying to soak in the me and him alone time together even just by playing then napping together and cuddling xx

Be kind to yourself. You are so close to the end and your little one won't mind staying at home playing during this time. Once baby is born you will feel better as you won't be pregnant anymore. That's what I keep telling myself! My little girl is also 18 months and I feel your pain, I am absolutely exhausted.

I saw a podcast the other day that said being pregnant with a toddler is 100% worse than having a newborn and toddler 😊 I found this very reassuring!

Here’s hoping the podcast is right 😅🤞🏽🙌🏽

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