Ex and his family

I think you should bring this up with ur partner and say that you would also like to be included and see what his family says in response to this and hopefully you guy will be able to plan a day without the partners ex having involvement x

We’ve spent time with his family just us and they keep us very separate but I don’t know I have this feeling that no matter what happens she’s always gonna be who they want him to be with when they first split up they constantly kept inviting her out when they were with him so just got this feeling I am not gonna be accepted he knows how I feel and he’s like what do you want me to do there’s nothing I can do it’s there choice to be with her x

This was how me an my ex was , him an his ex doesn’t have kids together . She was always there . I honestly didn’t try get close to them because of that . I just don’t want them telling the ex about me an etc .. then they shady an already passed judgement, i wouldn’t try to get close to them I’ll just let it be how it is, no bad blood, but you just don’t know what’s being said

You’re not alone I have a 4 month old with my boyfriend I’ve been with for a year and a half now. His mom still talks to his ex and most of his family follow her on social media while none of them have paid any attention to me. He even still talked to her. They all seem to just hate me off the bat just because I’m not her at first it was whatever but once I got pregnant I lost it. I told him I was done with him talking to her and if he talked to her again that was it. He hasn’t talked to her since but his family would go out of their way to tell him updates about her. He told his mom he doesn’t want to hear it anymore and as far as I know she hasn’t mentioned her since realistically though he can’t do anything about his family. But I came to the conclusion they can not like me all they want I know they’d love me if they actually got to know me but they don’t want to and that’s not my problem. At the end of the day my child is more in need of my attention than some 🐕.

I try not to let it get to me anymore

honestly it took a year for them to actually meet me and it seems after we’ve been with them the next few days there with her constantly, my partner goes why you mentioning it and I’m like it’s because it’s bothering me your not with her anymore yet there acting like you are, I know him and her had a kid together but it’s not like they wouldn’t see him as we can take him then when we have him but it still upsets me because I know I’ll never be accepted because of the bullshit she’s made up when he left her (because she couldn’t accept it was her fault) she’s caused to many issues for us. He only speaks to her about their son but even when we have him she’s constantly messaging asking if he’s okay and I’m honestly getting fed up because we can’t enjoy our weekend with the kids as she’s constantly checking in. Just seems like I can’t fully have a relationship with his family because of her. The big that pisses me off soon as we go there with both boys there all over her son.

it’s got to the point I don’t want to go round there when invited because I know they prefer her and wish he had stayed with her, none of them asked his side of the story when they split up they just decided not to talk to my partner for the last year until our son was born so I know they don’t accept us

Yeah I would just keep the distance and you dictate the relationship you have with them. Girl don’t say that because I’m sure you love your man and he is exactly where he wants to be; WITH YOU! Don’t let them run you off enjoy your man and the family you all created together..