Don’t want my baby around step dad
My step dad has always been a weird pervert towards me since I was a kid and I don’t want my baby around him while I’m not around. He’s sick and I don’t know what other stuff he is into but I will not let my baby around him without me or his dad. He lives with my mom so I feel bad that she won’t always be able to have him spend the night and stuff but I just won’t risk it. Am I wrong for this?
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You are not wrong. Trust your gut, if he gives you bad vibes it’s not worth the risk. Maybe invite your mom to stay with you if she wants to help overnight?
You are doing the right thing and honestly, your mum shouldn't be with a pervert who perves after her own child so choosing to stay with him has caused the issue of your child not being around her as much, that's not your fault at all.
Does your mum know he is a perve and how he was with you?
Sadly, you're in this position. It shouldn't be like this, but you have to do what's best for your kid now and not your mum
unfortunately yes, as a kid I told her plenty of times but she still chose to stay with him and marry him after the fact.
I'm really sorry to hear that, that's terrible.
You are 100% right in not allowing your child around them even if your mum is there with the perve to 'protect', as she has proven she is not a protector of kids and where her priorities lie, this is on her, not you and if you did anything less, you'd be doing wrong by your child so don't waiver on your stance.
Also, I'd say really think about how you will manage your child's safety at their house once they grow bigger and are walking, etc, or teens as this will make it both more difficult and awkward/obvious that there is something very wrong and you would eventually struggle to always be in every room, every time with your child to watch them and ensure their safety.
It's a really crap situation as it's your mum, but your kid comes first, and this situation is not of your making.
Personally, I'd explain how I feel to my mum and that i could manage being around that vile perve as an adult even though it was disturbung/upsetting but now you have had a baby things have changed and you must put your kid first, that you and your partner both feel strongly about that.
Tell her you want her to have a relationship, but it would need to be at your home and without step-perve present. She will probably be upset, but that's on her, and she'll either come around or not, and if not, again, that's on her and shows a lot about her care for you and your family.
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