Captain oblivious turned captain obvious . 🙃

He comments on disliking how stern I get when I hit the end of my rope before he actively steps in and tries taking over the situation I am obviously not currently handling well. Like thanks captain obvious not like I didn’t ask for your assistance 4 hours ago. You shouldn’t need an invitation to step up to parent, especially if you aren’t enjoying what your witnessing occur. “Let me handle it” would be much better to hear than “can you stop being so loud/scary/angry” I can stop being those things when I get a fucking break that I’ve been pleading for. He makes me feel like shit for being the only one actively parenting, which causes me to lose all the kindness I normally am full of toward my child. And then he won’t talk about it until he’s ready to threaten drastic changes. But God forbid I bring up wanting to end it or go somewhere else for a while for physical distance between us. I parent much more consistently when he’s never around. When he gets tired he just immediately falls asleep. Regardless of what’s happening around him. When I get tired I end up sounding like my fucking mother. An anxious mess who’s begging for help and never being heard. Yet I’m the one who’s constantly told to bend and change. I’m so fucking sick of it