Mom friends...how to find and keep 😅

I think its hard when you're a mum. Not sure either tbh. I'd like to know aswel x

I started my own mom group! My midwives send thier graduates to me and I've found some really good friends through it!

Nope. It's a good and valid question! I have met 2 moms on here who are really nice and had multiple meetups, and we continue to keep in touch. For those, I think what has helped keep it going is being comfortable, no pressure to be super mom, no judgments, and discussing friendship expectations, just having fun with the kiddos and supporting each other in this mom thing. Other than that, it's been the same as what you described, just awkward.

haha yeah I find everyone says they want the same thing, but just the effort isn't there 😭. Do you meet often? I'm finding when I do meet someone consistently it's every 3+ months (when schedules align) which again makes it hard to be close or they text but it's a 2-3 week wait for a reply which again makes it hard to bond.

I completely agree!!! I technically have been on here a couple years now and never really made it past conversation so no meet ups etc 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ I often feel like I've either done something off putting or I'm not trying hard enough? But it feels like I'm doing all I can 😕 so I'm not really sure what the secret is. And same with groups etc, everyone seems to have their clicks and it's hard to find any place I fit in. The few who did speak to me are never around anymore or seem to be avoiding me?? 🫠 I'm sure it's in my head but it's like no one has any time for me anymore even just for a casual chat...it's made going to group really hard as I feel a little deflated about it all like what's the point trying anymore. I'd love to have just 2/3 mum friends that I get on with and can meet up with xx

yeah totally relatable...it's easy to blame yourself I've done a lot of that in the past. Sometimes it is the other person though 😆. Yh that's the reason I stopped going to groups too but I feel like I have to try again as I'm going to have a new baby and be bored stiff at home.

interesting. How did you start this? Was it through this app or you added people as you met them? It is through WhatsApp?

I'm not sure how to reply to your comment directly sorry! So yeah my midwives had a drop in weigh in and measure thing for moms for 6 weeks postpartum, and I got to know a few of the moms in passing and decided with one of the other moms that I'd love to be able to keep up with them, so we made a facebook group and a text chaim for alumni of our midwives, and as they graduate, the midwives direct them to our Facebook group, which allows them to stay connected but we also meet once a week at a coffee shop in town and we've done walks and other small excursions. It's totally drop in and no pressure to come weekly, and we have some moms that have only come once but we've had some moms come every week for the last 5 months!

I guess, regardless of our good intentions, we aren't going to fully click with everyone 🤷🏻‍♀️ and sometimes we miss the mark, and sometimes they do. I spose making mum friends and them sticking is when the fates align and everyone makes effort at the same time 👌🏻😅 but yea I'm trying again atm, though I think this is a cycle of years now 🤦🏻‍♀️ but I get the bored at home 🏡 😐 it can be quite claustrophobic at times with kids, need to get out the house at least for the first half of the day and then go home and wind down from socialising (I'm an introvert) xx