Husband always name calling me when we have big fights
I am sick of the name calling and throwing divorce etc in my face when I call out my husbands lack of responsibility / parenting ability
He is great for the most part - there is no control, jealousy or possessiveness or isolation from friends and family we have a lot of independence from each other and trust. I always felt quite at peace in my relationship
But whenever we have a huge fight he always ends up calling me names .. I’ve told him to stop in the past and he did for a while but he’s just started it again
I felt I tolerated it before because we always were able to reach middle ground and compromise and work on resolutions which strengthened our bond but ever since the baby came my perspective of him has completely changed and I just cannot tolerate his bullshit anymore
I am really cautious of breaking up my marriage and family so I am trying to make it work but part of me wants to just leave and exit
I’m not sure what I want from this post… just a vent I guess
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He could have a lot of anxiety since the baby, and it is making it worse. Marriage counseling for you both and anger management for him might help if he is willing to. If he isn't willing, then you need to decide if you still want to be in this relationship. You also need to ask yourself if you want your LO growing up in an environment like that.
One of my friends parents was like this. Everytime the husband would say name to her, she would simply walk away. Mid sentence as he said it too.
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That’s definitely a narcissistic tendency. It doesn’t sound like he’s a full narc, but he shouldn’t be treating you like that regardless - and especially when you’ve already spoken to him about this specifically. Threats of divorce during a fight is a coercive control tactic - it’s like a test to see how committed we are. I’m sorry mama. Talk to him about it again and if it doesn’t stick this time, he’s just not respecting you and you deserve better than that. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’ve dealt with this too. It’s exhausting