My cousin named her baby same as mine…

thank you for your advice 🥺. I’m absolutely in love with the name and will still be going ahead with it. Just need to prepare myself for the lifetime joke of me ‘copying’ my older cousins baby names now, because I for sure don’t have it in me to explain that I confirmed it with her months before 😫

if it was you and your close cousin would you be transparent and let them know you feel a bit upset / mugged off?

great advice!

See I give the opposite advice, if you’re a close family each child deserves their own name and identity. I would be changing my name to prevent this. Unfortunately we don’t own names so it’s a risk we all run when choosing but it’s just how you feel about your cousin and you having children so close in age with the same names

As long as you love the name, I’d still go for it! I have the same name as my cousin and we ended up ok 😅❤️

I totally get why you're upset. You were set on the name, & she wasn't. It's your first, but her second. Plus, if you stick with the name, it will look like you're copying when it's anything but.

You would have thought she would have struck that name off her list. There are certainly names that I love that I wouldn't touch, because ppl that I care about have kids with those names. & yes, while you don't "own" a name, there's a certain expectation you don't go giving your kids the same name as people close to you, unless you're naming them after them.

Another perspective - My BIL was having a baby (their 2nd) 1 month after we had our 1st & they were pushing us to tell us what we were calling ours & then they could tell us their name so that we wouldn't name them the same. Well, to start with, we hadn't 100% decided, but also what would have happened if we HAD picked the same name? Who changes? So we refused to discuss it. As it happened we had actually picked the same middle name and they ended up changing

Please still use the name if that's what you love and had decided ♥️ there are three Tom's in my family- it will not be a big deal at all. In no way should you have to change your name if that's not what you want 💕 xx

If you're set on the name, then go with it anyway. And if anyone says anything, just tell them the truth - you picked the name first and your cousin decided to name the same, no the other way round. It was her decision to keep the name the same really.

This reminds me of the scene in the sex and the city. Charlotte’s baby name.😂

this made me giggle, thank you for your light humour 😂

Update: I felt like I needed to get my feelings off my chest in the most respectful way possible, without trying to put a negative aspect onto the situation. Older cousin has now told me I can’t speak on the situation and I should be happy for her and just pick another name, oh Lord 🥲

Oh wow! What a bitch

my thoughts exactly 😅

I have a cousin with the same name as me.

I have an aunt Margaret who has two cousin Margaret's.

I have 3 cousin Theresa's.

All are close in age.

As frustrating as it is nicknames come about and they get known by different things.

Me and my friend are due a week apart. Luckily I'm having a girl she is having a boy but we discussed what would happen if we were both having the same as we like similar names(for girls anyway) and we basically agreed that if we both loved a name we would just use it. She uses nicknames for her kids anyway and I can't use nicknames for anyone- if you introduce yourself by saying "I'm Elizabeth call me Beth" you are Elizabeth for ever in my head I can't say Beth, if you say "I'm Beth" you are Beth forever even if you then later tell me it's short for Elizabeth. So they would end up called different things.

I would be fuming if my cousin did this 😤 and her reaction after you spoke to her would piss me off even more.

Defo keep the name if you still want the but bare in mind baby boy might come out and not feel like the name you gave him. But defo keep it if that’s what you want 💛