I am having a stressful pregnancy! My boyfriend dog is so spoilt!

I can kinda relate to this. When I was pregnant with my second with my ex. He had a dog and he was similar to what u have described, my ex wouldn't go anywhere without him and if we left him in the house alone he would bark the whole damn time. My ex wasn't a nice person and didn't look after his dog as he should. He would often abuse the dog but like u have described also would then the next min be all loving. Not apologetic type of loving but like he's just brushed under the carpet. It was an abusive relationship and when we broke he obviously took the dog with him. I was relieved. I had a nasty cough the whole pregnancy (pre covid) and the cough literally didn't disappear until him and his dog left. Despite him being adamant it wasn't the dog causing the cough. So yh i have been in ur situation. I know it don't help as I'm not suggesting at all u should end the relationship because of the dog. Have u tried having a conversation with ur partner about how much it's affecting you?

So sorry to hear this. Since the dog is 3 already it might be a bit harder (not impossible though) to train him. I think the best thing to do would be to get a dog behaviourist. Can you talk about this with your partner? Also, if you’re home more, when your partner is not around you can try teaching the dog boundaries by not giving attention when he’s barking, etc. This sounds like a very tough situation to be in but I would say just talk in an affirmative manner with your partner.

Sounds like the dog needs some proper training, including crate training.

Wow this is wayyyy to much!! The dog is biting you wow!!!

The dog will hurt your child while you're baby is still inside of you and definitely when baby is born

If you can take the necessary money to have him severely trained NOW it's a must

If not either the dog leaves or you leave

I would've been gave an ultimatum if it was that bad tho

I'm too much of an alpha female to allow a dog to rub me tho I would've disciplined that dog so fast at any hint of aggressiveness or noise!!!!

Hi Amanda I have many times and he said I’m selfish and not considerate of his feelings, I remind him this is my home and I’m pregnant and ur living with me wen he decided to move in he never asked me he just did it and I explained over and. Over in the last year about this. He said to give him time to train him but I think is too late his been saying this over a year and the dog runs his life.

Hi Bb I have had dogs my self and I have done the ignoring the training but he has no respect for me so I juts stay away when his not there.

Amanda I’m sorry also to hear what you went threw x

I just find it so selfish of him he does not pay one bill in my home yes he helps with food ere and there and u have been promising u will change this dog behaviour for over a year all I see is worsening behaviour when I got pregnant I explained I wanted a calm pregnancy im 14 weeks and have epilepsy so is a high risk pregnancy, I need sleep that I don’t get at all and no stress that I get constant, the night walk are around 11 so if I ever want to go sleep early I can’t as the dog will bark and act up as soon as he comes back from the walk around 12.30 am.

This dog has to go. He's biting you, he's peeing in the house, he's whining all. day. long... The dog is not happy. You are not happy. Your partner has not gotten the dog any training or done anything to address the situation after being given ample time. The situation must change and is not you trying to live in the dog's house. Invite your bf to move back out. The dog will bite your baby. The dog will wake up your baby. And if you think you are upset that the dog won't let *you* sleep, haha, just wait! We all make sacrifices when we have children, and your bf simply cannot have both. 🚫🐕🚫

Bonny honestly I don’t think he will chose us he never put my feelings in my consideration why will he now he still does not care how stressed I am. And he knows this no sleep stress could kill me and the baby, his ago man but not a good dog owner and selfish partner.

You allow this to happen. You have to put your foot down it's seriously abuse!!!! You tip toeing around the house your house this is insane

They have bark stop plug ins

https://www.shopsillydoggo.com/products/barkpal-anti-bark-device-that-trains-your-dog?variant=45082176553270

I'm trying to help but I really don't see this working out if ges been trying for a year 😵‍💫

It's gonna take alot!!!!! And consistentcy to train this pup he needs a shock collar on at all times as well

And he's just too much of a risk for a baby and it wouldn't be fair to keep him in a crate

He needs to be rehomed

I would never even trust the dad with baby if he keeps this dog

I’m afraid when you have a child, the child comes first. That dog is not safe (and when you have your health visit, I’m sure the healthcare worker will raise concerns). As harsh as it sounds but for the safety of your baby, the dog needs to go - he’s not suitable around babies and children. He needs to find a no-children or grown up children household.

Thank you Priscilla I fully agree with u! I will check the link you sent me, I’m literally in tears every morning we just woke up to him peeing on our new 300 pound tv stand he been peeing on it since we bought it and wat happens nothing he cleans it feeds him walks him and now I’m left with the dog while he goes work. 😥

Amy thank you for your message that’s right and I don’t want any social workers or thinking I’m not putting my baby first I have given him ultimatum I have waited and I see how long he realises he can’t train this dog, he does not have the will and he does not care. I have asked him to leave so many times he will leave his dog at his mum for a few hrs and he thinks 1 a month that’s ok. She is happy she got the dog out!

, what part of what she said amounts to abuse?

, you can train a dog without a shock collar. Please don't use them.

@Hannah you might want to read through my comment again. It seems like u have jumped to conclusions. I have nowhere said that I think she is being abused. I have said that I was abused by my ex, not to do with the dog but just the dynamic of the relationship which I don't need to go into online to people I don't know. But I was definitely careful in not imposing any opinion on her or her partner I even said I'm not in any way suggesting she should take the same actions I did, just wanting to show my support/empathy that I know how hard the situation can be from what I went through

@Hannah a big ass dog that's fukin biting it's owner that's disabled and pregnant?!?!?!? Fuk outta here!!!! I said shock /vibrate use both because ain't no fukin way!!!!

And I said she's being abused!!!!

She absolutely is!!! She has epilepsy she's pregnant she said herself she can't sleep cause of this dog and it can KILL HER AND HER BABY

If that ain't abuse idk what is

You lucky I gave her options to try first because really this dog needs to be put down!!!! Like @Bonny said the dog ain't happy

The dog is stressed and acting out all fukin day that's no way to live thats not quality of life

I would start keeping recordings of the dogs behavior if you need it for court

Because if yall break up and he keeps the dog and nothing changes your baby's life is at risk at his house

Ladies thank you all for the support please don’t fall out over this, do u believe is stress and abuse mentally and physically yes his bites are not painful but enough to jump, but I do believe he will turn on me because I’m not his owner I was not there from when he was a puppy I got with my partner when he was 1 and now his 3 and nothing has changed. I will take everyone advice thank you so so much. ❤️

That dog need professional training immediately before the baby gets here. Make sure you choose a trainer that is very experienced not just some cheap pet store one. All this dog needs is some alphas in the house so you both need to learn how to be dominant. Make it very clear that this is needs to happen or else you shouldn’t live there with a baby. I have 3 dogs myself ppl need to learn to be proper dog owners if they want a dog

Thank Sarah I agree, I can tell you I do my best and when I do my partner just undo it by not following threw example feeding him while we eat at dinner our food I literally get so mad because he will never learn and keep demanding for food! U can’t do it one or 2 days and then u think your dog has learned, I can’t even walk to the shop I am trying so hard.

I know you don't wanna hear this bit you have to take some accountability as well, he isn't undoing the fact that this doh is biting you!!! Only you can stop that and you're not

I would make it very clear to this dog that you don't fukin bite me

But at this point I think if you try to correct it he may really bite you even harder because he knows there's no follow thru

I swear if you live close which I don't even think you're in the states lol I would come there myself I'm too much of an alpha a dog wouldn't try me I can give my bf dogs one look and they know wtf is up they know I don't play I stand my ground

I know Priscilla I perfectly believe that too I’m so unwell I just hide in the bedroom. I wish u lived in London gosh! I would get you to train him! But appriciate the brutal honesty im a person who takes advice without feeling hurt even if it’s brutal it’s real life! No sugar coating.

The dog ended up biting his nose off

Biting who nose off????😱😱

Oh no, please say the boyfriend's nose! 😯

Anything you do has to be life long. Dog training never stops so if your partner is not taking this serious you need to leave him. If hes going to choose a dog which he cant even be a proper owner for over you and his child then you need to leave. No dog should run the household this is very dangerous. If you cant be around your partner think about what will happen when your partner is giving attention to a child

It was my partner nose he still chooses the dog he will leave him at his mum and juggles around he said but he will never get rid of him