Naps

How are y’all doing with naps these days? My baby takes 3 naps a day but it’s taking 40 min to an hour just to get her settled to fall asleep, despite following sleepy cues. We were following wake windows, but ever since she dropped a nap her schedule has been all over the place and her windows keep changing day-to-day. We’re currently doing a combination of nursing, rocking, and sometimes laying down together. I know it’s just this stage because she is moving so much, but nap time is consuming so much of my day! I’m afraid to try transferring her to her crib because I don’t want to undo all the time I spent just trying to get her to fall asleep, which has happened a few times.

The same thing is happening at bedtime as well, but after a few attempts I can get her to sleep in her crib (at least for a little while).

I guess I’m mostly just looking for solidarity, but also wondering if anyone has found anything to help settle those moving babies!

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FTM First night home advice

Hello! FTM here and have just come home with baby. I am so tired as obviously didn’t sleep a wink in hospital. But I am SO paranoid my baby will stop breathing so I just cannot sleep I have to be able to hear her. Someone tell me I’m not going mad and it will get easier!!??

Just need to vent

I think my husband and I are very much diving off a cliff toward divorce.

We’re both exhausted and that’s not helping.

Our daughter is 19 months old and for the last 5 weeks she’s refusing to sleep longer than a few hours in her cot. She wakes up sometimes after 2 hours, sometimes after 5 hours, it’s never consistent, and she then refuses to go back down in her cot. She has to be asleep on someone. It started with her having to sleep on me and hated her dad, then it moved to sleeping on either one of us, and it’s stayed that way ever since.

We’re both not only getting little sleep but we’ve been passing tonsillitis back and for to each other for months now even without being near each other.

We don’t kiss anymore or hold hands, we don’t say I love you very much or show that we do, we don’t do anything intimate… we just co exist in the same house.

I don’t know if it’s because of the constant illnesses or this sleep issue we’re having, but I don’t think we’re going to last much longer. We’re constantly snapping at each other and swearing at each other.

We don’t have time to ourselves because we don’t have a village or anyone available to babysit for us so we can’t get back on track that way.

I just feel like we had a child and everything went wrong.

We’ve only been married 2 and a half years and it’s already falling apart. I’m so disappointed but I’m also so fed up of being spoken to like absolute shit on a daily basis.

I don’t know what I want from this post. I just needed to vent and get it out because I have no friends and nobody to talk to about this stuff.

Wake Windows

Out of interest, how long are your LO's wake windows at 5 months? 🙂

Been informed my child is behind her peers

My child is 4 in June and today I had parents evening and her teacher has mentioned she does not hold her pen correctly. It has also been mentioned she does not know numbers or shapes which I was aware of and we have been working on. She has also been put forward for speech therapy.

Any suggestions on what I can try ?
Resources or toys I can purchase?

AITA

My youngest is 19 months and still breastfeeds. I am the one who usually puts him down for naps. Today he went down and woke up like 44 mins later I tried to get him back down and he woke back up again. My partner is upset that he didn't go back to sleep. Im not trying hard enough, I'm letting the baby have power etc stupid s****. It's pissing me off bcus why are you so mad? I understand we have things we eed to do in the house today but still.