Smoking and bed sharing

But he vapes in the same room as the baby????

I’m pregnant with baby #2 due in December. Baby will be sleeping with us for the first few months. My husband do smoke (weed and vape) but I’m sure my husband will smoke his weed elsewhere when baby arrives but for vaping, it’s not so harmful/harsh like weed and cigarettes are. So, it’s not quite a big deal (at least not for me).

If he is vaping in the same room as baby, then no. Second hand vapor is still dangerous to babies.

If he smokes, changes his clothes and showers before bed, then I would think it is okay if baby stays on your side

I think the truth is we don’t have the data to know how risky it is for a baby to bedshare with someone who vapes. We know that smoking dramatically increases the risks to the baby of bed sharing and it’s only a guess that vaping would be less risky, based on the assumption that there are fewer types of nasty chemicals from vaping, but there is no data to back up this guess.

If I were making this decision, I’d also think about other risk factors (like the age of the baby, whether the baby was born full term and is healthy, whether there are other ways you’re not able to fully adhere to the safe sleep 7, etc.) and how I would feel and what I would think if I did bedshare with my baby and my vaping partner and the worst were to happen (would I blame myself, my partner, etc.?) Only you can decide if the risks are worth it to you.

Also consider that the risk may already be embedded in your mattress if your husband has vaped regularly then slept on this mattress in the in the past.

Can you sleep in another room with your baby? I personally would not be willing to take the risk, and I wouldn’t personally give up bedsharing so my husband could vape- lol. I would have a serious talk with your husband about the safety of your baby and how you may need to sleep separately unless he’s willing to stop. It’s such an unhealthy habit 💔