How do you feel about hyphenated last names?

I did this against my ex’s wishes because of my career. Something didn’t sit right with me about losing my name and his being all over my work, IDK. I was glad I did when I got divorced. Not the best reason in your situation but I would say yours is also a very good reason.

thank you! My daughter is still young so I have no idea how she would feel about it but it seems like it’d be the right thing to do

My oldest has actually asked to change his name repeatedly to my maiden name since the divorce. I’ve told him if he still feels that way when he’s 18 I will help him with the process. Kids in my experience do care about their name and inclusion.

I hyphenated mine just as a way to protect myself. I keep a separate bank account with my maiden name and having it on my id allows me to access it. My first marriage ended not so great and he threatened to put his debt on me because I took his name and he could. Second time around I just hyphenated for protection even though he’d never try the bs my ex did. My children only carry their father’s last name though.

THIS!!!! Another thing my goofy first husband did as well!

We hyphenated cause we plan to pick an entirely new last name for our whole family when we get married. We don’t mind paying the fee for all 3 of our names to change legally (:

And if we never get married then it’ll stay hyphenated 🫡

Does your daughter have the same bd as the baby you're pregnant with? If so, I'd use your maiden name again.
I also think that if he hasn't put a ring on it but a baby in you and your daughter already has your maiden name, I'd say give this baby your maiden name too 🤷🏻‍♀️
Although after marriage you could give your daughter and baby new last names along with yourself?

my daughter has a different dad. We are engaged and planned this baby and our wedding is before my due date so myself and my newborn will have his last name I’m just conflicted on hyphenating or not

Ahhh yes yes makes sense - honestly up to you? Is your daughters dad in the picture? Would you consider changing her last name to your future hubbies?
What does your future hubby think?

I would love to change her last name to his but my ex would not agree with it. He has become so bitter and makes everything as difficult as possible. It’s such a difficult decision for me, I don’t like the idea of the hyphen but I don’t want my baby to feel alone or left out.

Ahhh that's hard 🥺 perhaps keep your baby's last name as yours just like your daughter, and when they're old enough, they can decide for themselves what they wanna do? But also, if you have another child in years to come I expect your future hubby would want them to have his last name ahh it's a tricky situation 😭

I married a hyphen. It SUCKS. Our kids don’t have the hyphen. 10/10 don’t recommend.

My last name is hyphenated with my maiden name and married name but daughter has just married name