Need input please

My husband and I have been together for 3 years, we got pregnant in our first year together and welcomed a beautiful baby boy into our family. Recently we found out we are pregnant again and will be welcoming a baby girl in February. But I don’t want to be with him anymore I went to him today to talk about everything going on in our lives, he lost his job about a month ago and then started working as a mechanic for a friend but got fired two days ago from that job because he wasn’t showing up. Instead of going to work he would sleep all day, I got so tired of trying to wake him up I stoped doing it altogether. When I went to him and tried to get him to understand my feelings and I hat I need him to help and get another job he turned it around on me and acts like I think I’m the most perfect human being, and I know I’m not. It started an argument that turned into him called me a whore and a bitch and a dumbass. Like are you serious?? Your going to sit here and call me names and try to make me look like the bad guy when your the one treating me like shit and not helping with anything. I work 3 part time jobs on top of taking care of our toddler and being pregnant, I can take our kid with me to every job but it’s still so stressful. When I ask him for help it starts a big argument and he leaves with our kid. I’m so tired of trying with this man, I feel like a single working mom. I’m drowning in my thoughts and my feelings, I wanted to get back on my anti depression meds but I can’t find them, they aren’t where I left them which mean he stole them and hid them or threw them away (which is technically against the law) I wanted to get help but this man won’t let me, I can’t even let someone watch our son unless I run it by him first. I wanted to get him gone because I know he isn’t going to change but I don’t know how to do it?? I don’t know how to get him off the lease, I don’t wanna have to go through court to keep my child safe and taken care of. I know he’s going to lie to the judge and make me out to be the bad guy even though I do everything for these children and nothing for myself. Ughhh I don’t even know what to do anymore

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Get all your ducks in a row, document any emotional abuse (text & video) and other. Be patient and when the time is right seek a low cost or no cost family law attorney that can advise you and give you different scenarios. He sounds like a nightmare. Hang in there. If you document on your phone keep it in a private or locked folder or send it to a private email that's not linked to your phone. Regarding getting him off the lease that's tricky since he's your spouse. I'd say seek legal advice. Potentially with a restraining order but I'm no expert.

First off I would get him to see a GP. Does he have a medical condition that’s causing him to be so fatigued? Is he depressed and if yes what help can he get? Set a standard for how you should be spoken too and don’t accept anything less. You clearly are a super human 🙃 I don’t know how you have time to breathe. You need to put your foot down and get some time to yourself. Let your LO be looked after by others.

@Violeta💕 we aren’t technically married, just married under God. I haven’t filed the papers because I don’t trust him nor do I want to be married to him legally

@Lesley he has depression and it started a month ago when he got laid off from his job for mouthing off to a coworker. He refuses to see a doctor or a therapist and refuses to take medication which I know he needs. He has massive anger issues and refuses to get help. He used to self medicate with marijuana until I put him in jail back in April for fear of mine and our child’s life. He conditions of release state he’s not allowed to smoke marijuana or drink alcohol yet he’s drank 3 times that I know of since being released

….. the best interest is that of your children.. make your moves and decisions based off that.. idk what your faith is.. however whatever it may be .. lean on that.. your worrying is gunna leave you right there.. these women are giving exceptional advice I think you can take into account.. you’re a strong individual.. find motive to handle what you need to step by step.. breathe take breaks it will get better but it starts with you.. make them moves.. and make them in the direction you wanna go in

I see. That makes things a bit easier. If you want to remove him from the lease I read that you can consult with the property management or landlord.

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