Mother In laws suck 🙄🙄HELP

You weren’t wrong for reacting the way you did. First of all she has no right interrogating YOUR child. Don’t feel bad.

Nah not wrong she doesn't get to start telling her she is lying. She should have asked you.
Kinda wonder are you and your husband in a good place. Seems like she is spying for him.

Nope you’re not wrong! Don’t feel bad! You are the mom & as long as she’s w/ you it’s NONE of MILs business what goes on. If she was concerned she should’ve asked you why your daughter smells a certain way. Certainly DO NOT tell a 4yo to stop lying when you don’t know that they are. I would’ve been mad & told her to mind her own business.

Honestly I was thinking something similar. This sounds like a thought that’s been festering to immediately assume this woman would not only go see someone else but be around him so much the baby smells like him? Yikes. That’s an issue.

Your kid is 4, that’s still a baby in my eyes. They don’t know any better, especially to care about boys themselves, it sounds more so like she wanted her to slip up about you. I would make sure your Mil isn’t putting ideas in the air based on whatever personal feelings she may have. But also, terrible to bring a kid into potential drama. Even if I thought my kids spouse was cheating I’d confront them about it first.

my partner recently got a new job where he is always gone from our home for work trips &’ personally I know she knows I’m unhappy with it but I still support him otherwise and I spend most of my days with my mom , like I always do and always have when he isn’t around since he’s gone a lot more now we go almost every day to her home me and my mom are very close everyone in my family goes to my moms house its my second (1st) home . I told my mom about the incident and she said to move out if it continued . I had even a FaceTime call with my Husband about how my daughter used up so much perfume and showed him te mini bottle so I’m not worried what she tells him. I’m not a cheater and I don’t want my daughter questioned or interrogated it’s ridiculous ! She also has drama with another daughter in law and I know damn right I’m not going to put up with it .

I wish I would have added that part!! My mother knows where I was . Don’t live with your in laws 🙄 it’s crazy my daughter is 4 like what telling her not to lie is crazy !! I’m going to call my partner and tell him about this and I don’t even like the idea of having to bring it up, I feel like I should .

I’m currently w/ my in laws too. Luckily my MIL is awesome & we have a great relationship now (we didn’t always but that’s a different story). Now my FIL? He’s a terror!! I get the anxiety of telling your spouse what’s going on when he’s not there but because it involves your daughter I would say a convo needs to be had. Your husband needs to know so that he has a chance to fix it and hopefully calm his mom down and prevent any future occurrences. I hope it gets better you love!

Since her son got a new job where he’s always Out on trips , I knew I’d be at my moms all the time being there is mine and my daughters favorite place to go she likes playing with her cousin and I enjoy my family’s company, and she (MIL) had sent me a Video of Meme where it said something along the lines of her spying on me to see where I was if I was ever out with friends .” &’ I knew then it’ll be a problem I told my mom my concerns and now I’ll have to tell my partner if it persists I won’t feel comfortable in the home with her. Honestly even when I wanted to go out I didn’t because I didn’t want these issues but my friends think it’s toxic since they never see me and it is my birthday Month&’ my husband is in Japan or Puerto Rico on the beach on breaks so it’s been tough adjusting to this new change . Her other daughter in law has issues with her as well and I am not going to put up with it in my life , either my partner stands up for me or oh well .

still a baby in my eyes as well I’m angry and hurt . My daughter felt like she did something wrong !!

thank you for listening ❤️ taking the time . Here she’s the terror 🫣 but we’ll survive .

not wrong at all.

Oh jeez, so yeah she’s clearly an issue regarding that. I wouldn’t stand for it either, and I am more than glad you have the willpower to make the proper changes!! I hope it all works out in your favor!
No one should feel like a prisoner in their own home nor is it healthy that your husband is living his life and you are missing out because of his own mother’s none justified feelings. If you missed going out on your actual birthday make plans to go “crazy,” before the month is up please!

were the same. I do live with them they’re older and I never thought of that difference in smells regardless she shouldn’t call my daughter a liar when she said exactly where we were the whole day. If she was worried she can ask me or my mom.
My daughter used the small sample size that you get when it’s like your birthday month at Sephora it’s like a max of 6 sprays or so &’ she only puts a little on and I guess she took advantage yesterday while I was helping my mom cook and sprayed more than she should I do keep them away from her but she also enjoys smelling nice and it makes her feel like a princess as per usual girly girls do, and it doesn’t hurt every once in a blue moon.

You're not wrong.
In-laws do overstep.
It's good to keep a calm temperament ...

You're amazing, and that's a tough situation.