Mil taking over baby shower
So my baby shower is in February & my mom is paying for it. When I was making a mock guest list (nothing set in stone just an overall quick list) my boyfriend said it looked good. Then later that night I got home from work & he told me that HIS mom called & wanted to invite 9 extra people? When he told me this I immediately thought that it’s rude to attend MY event & want to be inviting people on your behalf who I DIDNT invite.
I mind you, most of the people who she wants to invite I don’t know or have only met once or twice.
My question is: do you think it’s rude of her? The people who she wants to invite are forms of family members on her side, however not immediate & again, I have either never met or have only met once or twice. It makes me feel uncomfortable/pressured to have them there now because if I say no it’ll be some kind of issue. I literally don’t know these people like that & they will be attending my event. Thoughts?
I am curious to see how others view this situation or if I am being unreasonable
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I mind you, because my mom is paying that’s an additional 9 ppl $500 extra for those 9 ppl to attend. My boyfriend told his mom that if she wants to invite them she would have to pay for them but he said this wouldn’t telling me first & now I feel like she’s going to take it as me saying “you pay for your ppl I’ll pay for my ppl” 😪
I think it’s really rude and cheeky. His mother is a GUEST and guests don’t invite other people to parties/weddings/events hosted by other people.
Personally I think if she wants extra people there she should host her own baby shower for you! 🙄
I think you should politely message her, say you have heard she would like to invite 9 extra people but as your mum is paying for it all you feel uncomfortable adding people you do not know due to the costs. Say that your husband/partner mentioned he had told her that she can pay if she wants those people which makes you feel uncomfortable but you feel this is the only option if she insists on having these people.
Then reinforce that it is your mother who is hosting the party on your behalf and that going forward all things need to be run past her as it is her money/party.
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