Baby’s last name

Honest opinions please. So my current last name is my ex-husband’s, as my maiden name was from my father who left when I was two. I didn’t change it back because I didn’t care to and I didn’t care to deal with the process of changing it after our divorce. I am now pregnant and will be giving birth any day and the father said he does not want my last name as our child’s name due to it being from my ex-husband. My plan was to hyphenate my last name with his last name, as we are not together since he decided to leave our relationship about a month and a half after getting pregnant. I am looking for honest feedback please. Do you agree with him that my last name should not be part of our baby’s name because it is from my ex-husband?

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I hyphenated my sons last name and didn't put the father on the birth certificate so it each is own. In your situation I would definitely do the same if u see hope to get back together or he's helpful with the pregnancy and bby but the isn't keep it to urs. Also for legal purposes since urs isn't changed yet I would just hyphenate for now

In my opinion, I don’t think he should really care that the baby has your last name because you’re not even together. I do see where he is coming from but I think if you want your baby to have your last name as well as his, then I think he just needs to accept that.

I don't agree because you made it your name and sounds like you have been using the name for a while. He could have married you if he wanted your child to have his name now!

Thank you for your input girls. He and his family think it’s disrespectful and thinks it should only be his name and if I hyphenate, then I can use my maiden name or family name (which I’m not going to do as those are not my last name).

Who cares who thinks it's disrespectful I think that's silly of them. It's not the old days anymore. The woman carrying the child earns all the respect and all the decision on the name in my opinion. Not saying not to be nice and consider other people's input at all. But trust your gut and do what you think is right. You have final say regardless.

I knew my ex wasn't going to be any kind of parent or do enough to pull any kind of weight with ours and so I naturally gave him my last name so me and bb will have the same. I mean he will live with me and I will take him to doc apnt I will be looking after him forever. I had a lot of people pissed off but who cares baby has been born almost 11 months ago and guess who has helped me raise him..no one lol so just look out and do what you think is right

I agree with the others, who cares who thinks it’s disrespectful. It’s your child, and their name is solely your choice in the end especially since you guys are not together any longer. My BD wanted me to use his last name which was hyphenated and I told him to pick one or he gets none. We ended up breaking up and I gave my son my last name. I regret nothing. 🤷🏼‍♀️ it’s easier to tell people his name and spelling since it’s my last name.

I think he is being unreasonable.

Lol and they don’t think it’s disrespect to leave you when pregnant.. smh
Do what you think is best for you and your baby🫶

I wouldn’t use my ex husbands name… it would be wrong in so many ways… especially if they search back in the future… not fair to the ex husband either!

You can change your name freely with your own deed poll… maybe change to your mother’s maiden name if you don’t want your married name..

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