Misbehaving in classes

My boy has been going to gymnastics and swimming classes each week for a while now. Last term he started independent lessons and they were going pretty good initially, but I think the novelty has worn off and he's started really playing up for the teachers in both classes the last few weeks.

In gymnastics he screams if he doesn't get to be first. In swimming they have to hold on to the side when the teacher is dealing with another pupil, as the water is quite deep, but he thinks it's hilarious to swim off everytime.

Just wondering if anyone else has experienced similar? Do you intervene or just let the teacher deal with it?

Do we persevere with the lessons, or take it as a sign that he's not really ready for independent classes just yet?

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Wow, he's really young to be doing independent lessons without you. Oliver lost interest in swimming and also just wanted to do his own thing. He was going on a Wed but now at nursery on a wed so we've just decided to wait until he's older. His classes were parent and child though, that's all I know around here unless it's 1-1
How many are in your little ones' class (swimming) xx

My little one does swimming (also 3) independently and sometimes he gets told off and has this thing of trying to swim down to the floor in swimming whilst the teacher is with another child. His instructor speaks to the children 1-1 and reminds them of the rules (he does this to nearly all the children at some point in the lesson) and I sit on the side giving my little boy the ‘stop it’ eyes lol! I think they are testing their boundaries at this age and learning/seeing what they can get away with and who with xx

@ruth There were three kids in his swim class before half term but the other two were both a bit older so he got a lot of the teachers attention. One of them has moved up to a different class and two new kids have joined. The two new kids have been very nervous, which I think has stressed him out a bit as he doesn't understand why they're nervous. Plus he's having to wait around a lot while the teacher deals with them and he just can't handle the waiting. He spent most of the lesson sat on the side of the pool today as he just wasn't listening.
He loves swimming so much and I'd love for it to stay that way. I really don't want him to start to associate swimming with being told off all the time and to stop enjoying it.

He's the only kid that ever gets told off in both classes and I feel like he's a starting to see himself as "naughty" which breaks my heart. I think we'll continue until Christmas, then if things don't change look at dropping gymnastics for a little while and moving his swimming to a different day, to see if he gets on better with a different teacher. I really like the teacher he's got currently but she's very strict and I just don't think it's the right fit for him.

aww bless him. Swimming is about having fun and having confidence in the water at his age. Learning new techniques but getting enjoyment out of it too xx

My little boy is exactly the same, he's been like it since he was 2.5! He now doesn't go to any classes as I feel he's just not ready! He was at a swimming class once and the teacher was directing him to go one way and he shouted across the room to her I don't want to go that way I want to go this way! So from then I just took him out 😂 xx

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I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

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I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

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