How often do you yell at your kids?

It's happened a couple of times recently as my son has entered a very whiny phase and has started dragging me everywhere and if I'm sat down and have to stand up before I can go with him he has a tantrum. It's not properly shouting but I've raised my voice and said 'NOAH STOP IT' it doesn't seem to affect him but I feel so guilty afterwards and have been working on doing breathing exercises to help me with my overstimulation but you're right we're human and we slip.

So with you on the unsafe shouting, my boy is a little daredevil and I'm more reacting out of fear than anger

I feel that in my soul the whining drive me up a wall. I feel so guilty when I yell over my kid doing kid things. It doesn’t happen much these days but it’s taken so much internal work to get here 🥲

i try to not yell but sometimes they literally will not take me seriously unless i raise my voice.
like they will laugh in my face doing some dangerous shit 😒😒

it goes right through me! I think snapping here and there raising our voice is an easy mistake to make and it's not like we're screaming/ swearing/ insulting them. We're working on it and hopefully will show them that we're human too and can make mistakes and apologise ❤️

omfg yes, tbh even if I raise my voice my son doesn't bat an eye, I'll be cooking in the same room then turn around and he's using a toy truck as a skateboard 🙃🙃🙃

Pretty much daily for something.

my son will open my dishwasher and oven and stand on the doors 😖

lmfaooo why are they like this?? We only have the one heart, they need to be careful with us before it gives out 🤣

My toddlers going through his terrible 2s and has tantrums almost daily
Crying over nothing or finding excuses to cry
So i am guilty of yelling atleast once a day especially when he tries fly kicking his baby brother or pulling his hair 😭

totally agree! No one is perfect!

my toddler can be the same way. Fortunately that kind of behavior comes in waves for her. Like for a few months she won’t take me seriously then for a few she’s a perfect angel.

I lately do it daily, there is very rare if I don't do it. I have baby and 3 others, all with 3 years gap. I need more sleep to have more patience 🙈 I'm trying my best everyday but I always say sorry to them as I feel awful 😭

it’s the effort that really counts here! My dad yelled all the time over the dumbest things and when I get mad I see his side coming out and I loathe it.

when it comes to my toddler being rough with my baby I can totally go off the handle.

I was pretty good until my second was born. Now I get super frustrated when newborn is crying and toddler won't cooperate. Now I'm working on it.
My husband in the other hand, I don't think he can manage an hour with toddler without yelling

I’ve only shouted at my daughter when she does something that I didn’t expect and dangerous. Mainly for her trying to climb up unstable stuff to trying to climb into the washing machine x

why do they have to climb everything?

Daily unfortunately. I’m not proud of it 😥

I'll raise my voice but will very rarely actually shout

don’t know but would love to know how they have no fear or anything unless it’s silly. My case my Xmas tree 🤣

you want to chime in here?

I've yelled a couple times in their lives but very very rarely. I'm just not a yeller in general and my natural reaction to being overwhelmed is more to shut down and get quiet instead of yelling. I do what my family calls the "mom voice" when they're really not listening but it's not yelling, more of that tone that lets them know you're serious and done if that makes sense.

I never yell at my kids… why isn’t that an option

almost never is an option 🤷🏻‍♀️ close enough.

My 2yr old is pretty chill tbh so I don't need to shout. I'll raise my voice if he's doing something unsafe like launching himself off of his slide onto the sofa etc but that's it really

The few times I have yelled it only makes her cry more and makes me feel bad. Sometimes I lose it when she pulls my hair. That’s the only time. I think it’s much more effective to just talk in a stern voice.

Ehh probably daily. The 1yo is when he's doing something dangerous. The 3yo is more after the 1,764,892nd time of talking through or calmly telling him something and he still looks me in the eye and ignores me. He listens when they voice gets raised though lol

Thanks for this post because I feel like all I’ve done recently is shout from being over stimulated! It doesn’t happen often but the past few days has been unbearable!

I usually only shout if it’s something unsafe.

He’s started to understand that if I raise my voice he’s in trouble so then he will listen and do what I ask. He will then come over to me and say sorry 😭😭😭 so although in the moment I feel AWFUL for it; it’s kinda making a positive outcome as he’s learning ?

I’m trying a different approach and removing myself if it because too much/ overstimulating! But you’re right, we’re only human! ❤️

same! I’ve noticed I don’t have much patience since our second come along, they’re 2.5 and just turned 1. So my toddler is a proper toddler doing toddler stuff and not always listening and up to no good then I’m trying to deal with 1yr old baby stuff 🫠

My son is 2. I have to yell at him multiple times bc he wants to do what he wants. I try gentle parenting but he just takes my kindness for weakness😂

I yell and talk slow but I don’t scream if that makes a difference lol I feel like he just won’t listen. He’s a bit like his dad 😅

For me, it's only at meal times to say it's ready if my son is in a different room.
I was a yeller when he was younger, but his therapists helped with that, and we understood how it's counter-productive and how it can upset my son even now if we yell it can upset him we are working on that as he is an older teen so know he has to be prepared for the job market and we know there can be yelling there.