Christmas gift for children denied. In-laws

Long post.

For years, my in-laws have been a little disrespectful towards me, it began when we moved into our own home, we asked them for a little help - to literally sit in our house and wait for Sky to be installed etc. nothing hard. Denied help. After a miscarriage, they rang to see how I was and then proceeded to ask when they can come over for a bbq. This then made me change my attitude towards them, never wanting to see them etc. our first born arrives and they then start calling constantly - never took interest in me and hubby previous to baby and never really asked how I was recovering post baby. they asked what my problem was and I told them all the above and how upset it all made me and they denied it all and shouted “you’re a liar” at me. I’ve never wanted to be friendly with them since but seen them and spoken on FaceTime regularly to appease my husband. Second child has arrived and again calling all the time and wanting to see us. For Xmas we have requested that the children get sent money into their accounts because they are proviledged enough to not want or need to for anything currently and we don’t want them to be opening copious amounts of presents cost Xmas morning. They have said no, they will gift presents and if don’t want them in the house we can give the toys back to them - we’d never take something off our children! They have 4 holidays a year, a 1.5mill pound house and constantly renovating but never ever ever spend on toy husband or the grandchildren ( ours are their only GC). Whereas my parents are not well off but give my family everything they have in time and money and always have since we got together.

I feel like they go over my head and discuss this with my husband who never puts them right and goes along with what they say in order to keep them happy but recently doesn’t care about my happiness.

My Inlaws make me feel truly miserable. And I have got to the point where I no longer want to disrespect myself by putting myself in that situation. I do not want to see them and do not want my children to see them - they will never see the kids without me because I don’t trust them. And I don’t want to show my kids it’s ok to be disrespected by certain people. It’s never ok.

Is it bad if I stop seeing them and stop them from seeing our children? My husband can if he so wishes, he’s incredible but the only thing I hate is that he’s never once stuck up for me or our wishes in regards to our family, towards them.

in our community

Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Water

My LO is 10 months old and I try and offer him water with meals but he will only take a couple of sips. I’ve tried adding freshly made apple juice to sweeten it a bit, in case this would entice him, but he still refused. I think if it’s not milk, he doesn’t want it, or it’s odd to him.

Any tips?

Married couples…who handles car maintenance in your household?

Oil changes, tune ups, tires, car washing/vacuuming, etc

Ughhh

I am so overwhelmed!! My baby isn’t sleeping and I’ve got a raging headache and all this legal stuff is making me feel irritated and I just want to cry.
I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds

I really hate to come out here and tell my business about what’s going on with my life in my kids, but I had no choice

I just came back from a parent teachers conference meeting and they telling me that my second daughter, who just turned eight about a week ago that she barely know how to read and she has speech problems… I already feel like shit because it’s not that I’m doing my job. It’s because I worked a lot, and and every time, me and my first oldest daughter, trying to teach you how to read, she gets insecure and thinking that we making fun of her, but we’re not!! I felt like a shitty mother I don’t know what to do.