What would you do?

Okay so my man and I have been together over a decade. We are the oldest grandkids and have been together longer than the others. We have two children. He had two cousins get married back to back and one announced they’re pregnant following their wedding(they suddenly moved it up a year and we now know why lol). Well I don’t want to be the third ones married. We’ve been together significantly longer than any of them. I have a lot of feelings around this. I don’t think it’s fair to me but it is 100% my man’s fault for giving me excuses as to why this wedding idea wouldn’t work or why that wedding idea wouldn’t work. I’ve suggested everything from the court house to Vegas to a castle in Ireland! He’s shot down every idea. We’ve spent 4.5 years engaged at this point. And he’s just dragging it out even more. He knows I’ve always wanted to get married. Would I be wrong to tell him I no longer want to get married? I don’t know if I want to even be together at this point. I love this man and he is the father of my children but some of the stupid shit he does makes me question everything. I mean if he really loved me he would’ve married me by now. He’s never helped with kids bath time(ever). Takes the van so I’m stuck at home with the kids(he has a sports car but prefers the van “bc it drives smoother” yeah idk either), leaves every cabinet open, leaves the formula can open, can’t put his clothes in hamper, etc. I am at my wits end. I’ve had so many conversations about things and it gets me no where and changes nothing. Am I being crazy? Petty? Pathetic? Would I be wrong? Thoughts please?

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You need to talk to him. And decide if the good things he does out weighs the bad. You saying you don’t even know if you wanna be together at this point sounds like your heart has made up its mind. You need to sit down and have a heart to heart and lay it all out on the line. His response will be your answer. You’ll figure it out 🫶🏼

Also remember you’re never stuck anywhere. But give it all you’ve got before you leave since there’s kids involved. Then you can say you truly did everything you could to try to make it work

I don't see marriage as necessary at all. The other complaints are valid tho. He should not be taking the "kids" vehicle unless he is taking the kids with him or needs it specifically for the size

My thoughts are.. if he wanted to marry you, nothing could stop him. And the fact that any little thing is an issue, it sounds like he just got engaged to you because you wanted to get married. He sounds like the type of man that will jump right out of that long relationship with you and meet someone new and get married in a year. Don’t keep accepting words with no action. Either he’s ready to do this or he’s ready to lose you.. stand your ground!