Bd has only came to help with new born twice and she’s abt to be a month

He kept asking to borrow money my entire pregnancy and tried to make me feel guilty when I didn’t . He still hasn’t bought her one thing. Now that she’s born he’s trying to act like he’s a father by texting asking how she’s doing but still is not helping and keeps saying he will come in his days off but doesn’t and saying I should start bringing her to his house since I need help. My heart is hurting because I’m so emotional I do wish he wanted to be with me and parent our child but now he’s been rejecting me more than ever making sure I know he’s coming to see her and that he’s doing for her and I need to stop talking abt me. I’m just trying to mentally understand what is going on. I feel like maybe in the future I can seperate wanting to be with him but right now I feel like I’ll be hurting myself having him around since he’s being so rejectful yet not even helping

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Stop giving him money first off. I learnt that the hard way with my baby dad. Second he is GASLIGHTING YOU into giving things to him when he doesn’t even deserve it. Do not fall for it. As a man he shouldn’t even be asking you for money. Third if he’s says he’s gonna come and doesn’t show up, I’d suggest going for full custody. I know you’re enotionally hurting right now, and you have every right to. For baby’s health and yours I honestly suggest blocking him Untill he can act accordingly. It will be hard, but your bby has you and will never go inprotected. If you need to vent or anything I’m here to listen. And congrats on your bundle of joy 🥰🫶

Sounds like my bd. He does the same exact thing

@Jade yeah I was thinking I should just block him since he’s just mentally hurting me & keeps saying he will be around more but doesn’t. He’s not on the birth certificate so idk if I should still file for full custody?? He also finally got a job so stopped asking me for money but mad that I’m making him pay me back 🤦‍♀️. thank you !! 🥹

Absolutely block him. And if you’re gonna block him I’d still go for full custody. Cause even if he’s not on the birth certificate all he has to do is file for paternity, and he has his rights. File now so you don’t have the headache later on when baby can understand. And I say this from someone who was in domestic violence relationship and it took a lot 😭. Think about you and what you need to get better mentally. He will eventually figure out what he needs to do in order to see his child.

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