Would you be annoyed too?

We live with my in laws. Last night I made tacos for everyone but my FIL eats later than us so we left the food for him to eat when he was done working out. I am vegetarian so I make a separate “meat” for myself. And the rice is a communal dish everyone can eat. My FIL packed the meat in the same box with the rice and the juices or whatever it is, mixed with the rice so I can’t eat it. I got super annoyed and told my MIL that he needs to stop doing that because it means I can’t eat the food I bought and cooked. And she got an attitude that I should just put it away then instead of expecting more from her boyfriend (they’re not married). I told her that we can expect more than the bare minimum from the people in this house. Mind you he also does not clean or cook or help in other ways. She also doesn’t wash dishes EVER. But expects us to wash the dishes after she cooks. So I guess I’m annoyed about the food and the fact that I feel like they expect me to be their maid because I’m a SAHM. My husband isn’t really any better cause he has to be told 5 billion times to take out a trash bag he can see with his own eyes is overflowing. Anyways. Would this annoy you too? I’m not sure how to deal with them cause his mom seems to just enable the crap and her BF has ADMITTED to doing things like not changing the TP roll on purpose so that we will do it. Your advice is appreciated. 💕

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i would be annoyed but if thats the kind of ppl they are u may just want to either choose ur battles or leave, for ur own peace. not saying to eat things u cant eat, but if they wont put it away properly, maybe put aside ur own portions and leave them to deal with the rest

Before I start, I can be very petty. My husband and I joke that it’s never out of the way for me to be petty it’s always on the way to where I’m going.

So Id get a fridge for the room I’m in and lock it away. Now no one can eat the food I buy. Idk I’m real serious when it comes to my food. Everytime I had roommates in college, in the military I always kept my food separate. The toilet paper, cool no one will change it but I’m bringing a roll in with me and taking it out when I go. Some people really don’t learn by being told. They have to feel. It’ll suck in the. Beginning to remember not to leave it or to bring it but honestly it’ll be better for you in the long run. Once everyone starts acting like adults then you can ease up. You aren’t their mother and shouldn’t be expected to accommodate them.

If it was feasible for me I would also start looking for another place to live. Cause let’s be honest they will probably get upset at anything you do and I refuse to not live in peace.

Yeah I’d pack him his food separate or just not make him anything at all at that point.

I would be, but, from now on you should put your own leftovers away in containers the way you like it.

When FIL comes out, he can get the cold food out of the fridge and reheat if he wants

Do you pay rent to live there?

Sure it’s annoying but since you live with them I don’t think you have a leg to stand on.

yes we pay rent. We pay for shared utilities and wifi as well.

Uff that sucks. If I were you I'd try to move out as soon as possible

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Ughhh

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I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds

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My mil is the reason I see my husband as less of a man

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