Perfectionist toddler

My son is and has always been that same way. I joke that it's because he's a Virgo, but he does have an adhd diagnosis, and hypersensitivity and fear of perceived rejection can play a big part in that - not that I'm suggesting that you are in the same boat. Sometimes, it can just be temperament/personality.

I work really hard to make sure my son knows that making mistakes is okay and that no one does everything perfectly on their first try. We just have to keep practicing, and we will get better. He's becoming a bit more accepting of it now, at 5 years old. It's really hard sometimes, but as an adult who is also a perfectionist and was never taught how to deal with it, I know it's really important.

aww bless him, mine hasn’t been diagnosed with adhd but he sometimes makes me think he can have attention issues, but then I think he’s still a toddler and learning to focus. But yes you’re right it could just be a personality trait, we don’t focus on perfection, or either me or my husband have ocd for him to see and learn this type of thing from.

I’m just trying to be a good role model and show mistakes are ok, glad your son is more accepting of it now, it’s hard to watch them get frustrated with themselves 🥺

Work on resilience. Model it a lot. Eg a ball game. *Uh oh I didn't catch it. That's okay. I'll try again!*

One of my adhd traits is perfectionism.

I wasn’t diagnosed with adhd until I was an adult so never learnt how to deal with it but I am sort of learning now how to deal with it. My main struggle is that I won’t try to do new things because I fear that I wont be able to do it perfectly.

I try to do make sure that my lo know that it doesn’t matter if things aren’t perfect and it’s okay to make mistakes