Stopping contact napping

Has anyone successfully transitioned from contact napping to baby napping in their next to me during the day? If so, how? And do you put a camera on them and leave them?

I’m using wake windows to get things done and I feel like during naps would be so much easier! We are also going through the 4 month sleep regression 🫠

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He finally stopped contact napping once we moved over to the cot. The next to me was way too small in the end and I think waking him up when he’d try to spread his arms out. We now do 3/4 naps in the cot and the last evening one on me because he’s grouchy in the evenings and I like the cuddles x

I have started to the last few days. She does take quite a while to go to sleep (not crying or anything just chatting to herself) and only sleeps for around 45 mins though 🙈
I sit with her until she falls asleep and then yes have the camera on her

What about using a sling to free your hands? They sleep well in there

Our night sleep started to go really badly when I stopped allowing contact naps, so I’ve actually just started them again haha! Without contact naps, my baby was sleeping only 30 mins at a time and was having 5 crap naps a day

Still struggling w this so I’ve started putting him in the baby nest (purflo) on the bed even tho he’s totally outgrown it, I start with a contact nap then slowly lean down into it lol, practically face plant into the nest w him and sloooowly remove my arm from under him whilst patting. It’s so anxiety inducing.

He STILL wakes every 20 mins tho so I need to resettle

He hates the next 2 me during the day it’s a battle even at night atm - he wakes himself when he splays out his arms

we transitioned to all naps in the cot when he stopped napping so well in the sling (but up to 14 weeks every single nap was a contact nap). at first they were each like 20 mins only and he’s gradually got better at extending them so now he sleeps 45mins-1hr in the morning, sometimes 2 full hours at lunchtime and then another 30 mins in the afternoon. i think having a little pre nap routine helps, we just go into the dark room and do a quick book then into sleep sack and down drowsy but awake. he self soothed much better before we took his dummy away but can still do it now with a comforter. also keep such a close eye on wake windows and don’t be putting them down too tired, we do 2/2.25/2.25 awake between naps (but all babies are different!). we also don’t go running in if he fusses cos sometimes he’ll half-cry for a minute then pass out lol

I did it, and yea, we leave with the camera on! It took us 3 days, but you know consistency is a key.

how did you teach him to self soothe? X

we did it gradually, so rocking to sleep at first and gently putting down, then we started putting him down drowsy but awake (in a swaddle at this point) and staying next to him with a hand on his chest, shushing etc until he was fully asleep (the aim was to get him to fall asleep not in our arms but all other soothing was ok and pick up if he cries), then we gradually did less and less soothing, so tried shushing but no hands on him, stopping shushing earlier but waiting in the room to see if he fusses, gradually withdrawing every couple of days til after a week or so we could just put him down, pop his dummy in and walk out and he’d put himself to sleep. then he started spitting the dummy out and fussing so we cut that out and he’s needed a bit more from us but we still leave the room while he’s awake. it takes a lot of consistency but they can do it, though you’ll know your baby best and what they can manage. if you google “gradual withdrawal sleep method” we followed that

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