Last breastfeeding😭

Hello, I was just wondering if anyone could help me cope with the feelings you get after the last breastfeeding.

My baby is turning 1 and I had to cut her off because of health issues. I've been slowly cutting feedings out over the past month and this morning was the last. I'm so crushed I can't stop crying. My baby doesn't understand why I had to do this and I can't explain it to her because she's too little.

She has horrible eczema when I have gluten, dairy, or egg. For 8 months I cut all that out. It left me with not many options cause I have food sensitivity to other things. I found out I was pregnant a little while ago and it's come down to eating well for the new baby and weaning off my first.

I'm so very sad and feel like I've let her down. Any help or suggestions on dealing with this would be great. Thank you😭💜

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You’ve done a great job and made soooo many sacrifices for her already. You’re both so lucky your nursing journey was successful for so long. This too shall pass. She’s healthy and will want her sibling to be, as well. No one you meet as an adult measures their successes in life on if or how long they were breastfed. You’re doing a great job even caring this much. They have big emotions at this age, and it will take a bit to redirect into a new routine, but you’ll get there and ultimately find the balance that works for the wellbeing of you and your tiny ones.

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