Husband was jerking off at 3 AM
in the bathroom

Maybe he was having a sex dream and just woke up and wanted to take care of it without bothering and waking you lol, honestly I wouldn’t read too much into this at all especially if you have an otherwise healthy relationship and sex life

Have you guys been having sex lately or often? What makes you think he is cheating. Maybe he didn't want to bother you with sleep because you work hard with the kids and he wanted you to rest in. I mean there's a lot of possible things, including if there is proof to the suppose you think he is cheating

How would that make him pretending to be a different person? Just trying to understand your thinking.

I'm gonna be blunt here lol. men are simple. sometimes they just want to bust a nut without putting in the effort of sex. and it's their right because it's their bodies, and they should not be shamed for their autonomy. now, if he's choosing to masturbate and it's affecting your intimacy or sex life, or if you have made it known that porn is a deal breaker and you suspect he's been looking at it, then those are different situations. but if you're only feeling some type of way about him masturbating in general, then that may be stemming from a bit of insecurity. I say that as someone who struggles sometimes with insecurity. what is it about the situation specifically that is bothering you?

I find nothing wrong with my husband rubbing out a quick one whenever he wants (he works 2nd shift so he stays up later than me anyway) the only time it would be an issue is if it’s effecting our personal sex life (which in my case it doesn’t, we still sleep together plenty) what about this has you so worried? 💜

i don’t understand what the issue is here? I mean he shouldn’t lie if that’s what he was doing but you also shouldn’t care? xxx

I think if everything else is fine, then you're just over thinking it.

If you guys are already having problems with intimacy or anything of that sort, then i don't think you are wrong for being upset

I think it’s perfectly healthy for married couples to masterbate. I do and I know my husband does. Sometimes you’re not in the mood at the same time, or just want to have a Solo session.

Is your current level of intimacy and emotional connection fulfilling to you? Because if it’s not then that could explain why his behavior is worrying you.

Walk in and tell him you want to get it in on too and then if he’s pooping well he’s pooping

We haven’t have sex and he is very cold with me. So I just felt like he didn’t wanna do it with me. I’ll try to initiate but I just don’t wanna be always the one initiating

Girl you’ve got to sit him down and tell him that you Miss that intimacy and want to rekindle with him xx

My men jerks off if I fell asleep after agreeing that we will have sex.
Sometime they need a quick nut.
I dont think it’s something to worry about

I had this issue and it turned out to be porn addiction. Took therapy and lots of talking and me even crying to fix our sex life. It's sometimes trivial, sometimes not, but if it affects your sex life it's never trivial in my opinion.