How to nip it in the bud 🌱🤏🏻

FTM due May 2025 👋🏻 and for years I have watched my MIL boss my 2x BIL and their wives about how to parent their children. Examples include, “don’t change her nappy there, change her upstairs”, “you should have let her nap here earlier, if she sleeps in the car home she’ll never sleep tonight”, “just take him a walk in the buggy outside til he calms down”… she also makes scathing comments about carbon footprints any time the kids are given avocados (I mean, I understand where she’s coming from, but it’s EVERY time… 🥑🙅‍♀️)

She’s a “fixer” who seems to need to be in control all the time. I’m dreading the thought of having to put up with her nagging once our LO is born. So I’d like to have some ideas in my back pocket of ways to shut this behaviour down from the beginning - honestly I think our relationship will be better for it in the long run!

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So heartbroken I found out my partner is cheating

She posted a bunch of pictures of them together, him in bed kissing her, matching outfits, them at Christmas events etc, hell she has more picture with him than I have of him with the kids in the last year.

I can’t even make sense of it all. We were together 14 years and have kids under 5 including a baby.

I feel like the worst part is the silence. I messaged him a bunch of the photos like wtf how could you do this? How could you be with someone else over a year? He responded with a typo saying “it hasn’t been a year it’s actually been a for a few months”. I don’t know if he meant over a few months or only a few months and it’s driving me insane not to know. He hasn’t opened my messages since Sunday morning. Like umm I’m home alone with babies and my whole world is crashing and you can’t even check your phone? What if there was an emergency? No apology no nothing

It’s a woman I know but hadn’t seen in a few years but our last convo she knew I was pregnant. I messaged her asking how long they been together and how could she date him and flaunt it knowing we had a family and sent pics of our family but she blocked me and changed her page to private. They still follow each other so I don’t think they are broken up but the last post of them was December.

I just can’t believe this. We actually have been doing great in our relationship in the last 3 months things were better than ever. I had zero idea any of this was going on

I hate not knowing if/when he’s coming home? Is he at least coming up with a fake apology or something or will he just be angry and act like he’s done nothing wrong. I can’t believe that was his only response and the typo is driving me mad lol

I haven’t slept or even ate since I found out. I’m so heartbroken we just had celebrated his birthday Saturday with the kids and had such an amazing day out, it was so beautiful our toddler was running around saying daddy daddy daddy which she just learned to say and now I’m just like wtfffffff

I m so sick of life,I hate everything.

I hate where I live,I hate where I work,o hate myself because I can't move forward...today I was sitting in a staffroom,dinner ladies were talking about going on a cruise and I m thinking how??? I work longer hours and can't afford to go to Wales! I live in two bed council flat and I can't use garden because there idiots smoking weed,where I work,I m lowest of the lowest,whatever I try,no one listens,I cant move forward after DV and I'm terrified because I m on my own with my daughter,and I always have to say no to her because food is more important,I feel like I m letting her down,I can't sleep at night because I hate my life so much!

Housework.

Hello Mamas,
Firstly how are you all?
Secondly during the day, how are you getting housework done? I am so behind its getting me down. (Partner doesn't help)

spicy noodles

my baby desperately begs for my noodles everytime i have my spicy noodles and i feel so bad but i would feel worse if i actually gave it to her lolz

Is this an issue or not!?!

Sorry personal/marriage related question!
Me and my husband work together (since having the kids i support in his shop). Today you could see my knicker line through my trousers and he was fuming! He pulled me aside and questioned whether i thought what i was wearing was appropriate and how i could leave the house like that. This is the 2nd time this has happened. I don't think ive ever really been bothered by knicker lines or my clothes might be abit tighter now since having child. Is it really inappropriate to have knicker lines on show? Am i being too chill or is he doing too much?

How would you react to this? I'm sorry if this triggers people.

So my son has a disability and a small developmental delay. About 6 months ish. His consultant is absolutley fine with his delay and he is doing really well considering where we was 12 months ago.

My colleage keeps telling people at work and making public comments that she thinks my son has Autism and should be tested based on xyz (whatever reason she's willing to give at the time, it varies)

I have the same disability as my son and I have had it for 24 years. I know my son isn't Autistic and he just needs time to adjust to this constantly changing disability. He takes medication which contributes to the developmental delay.

Im more hurt that she is telling people at work that she thinks my son needs more help than he's already receiving. He is absolutley fine at the minute and I wish I could tell her to f**k off because I will most likely get sacked. She also tells people she has a disability when I know damn well she doesn't. She makes horrible jokes about people with mine and my son's disability and I cannot stand this girl!!

Our children go to the same school so her son tells her about how my son is developing and how well he does in class so she is getting her info from her child.

How can I tell her to do one without getting myself sacked??