AITA? (Christmas presents)
Me and my partner were talking about Christmas presents, I was showing him what I got for our baby and our families. Then I tried being sly sly and asked what he got me for Christmas to which he replied “you’re holding your present right now” (I was holding our daughter) and he isn’t gonna waste money. I got a bit upset because I have mentioned I would like a necklace with our daughter’s name on it and he said he will get that for me. I paid for all presents for our baby, and also for our families and I got him a watch and bracelet set for £250. And before anyone mentions money, it’s not like he doesn’t have it, he is fine with going to the pub with his mates and spending money on weed, but when it comes to spending it on someone else he is simply being cheap. His mum told him the same thing when he was refusing to pay for a newborn photoshoot while I was on a SMP yet he had the cheek to ask for a PS5 for his birthday in January. Not sure if I’m overreacting because of the pp hormones or would you be annoyed too, my family was always quite big on presents and it’s not even about the price tag, it’s more about the thought and the fact someone remembered to get you a present
Not even gonna mention that he doesn’t help me around the house and with a baby, using the fact that I work from home and he is in the office 5 days a week as an excuse. He changed her nappy twice since she was born and she’s 4 months old and this morning he got annoyed because I didn’t put his lunch in his work bag and refill his water bottle as I always do so I feel like a small appreciation gift would be nice :(
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I’m in the exact same position so atp I’m buying myself a present from our son and I won’t be shy to let people know I had to buy it myself xx
I told him weeks ago we were doing presents from the baby and I’ve ordered him things that I I’ve had to really think hard about but yet yesterday (22nd of dec!) walking round the shops he just goes “I haven’t got you anything so if you see anything you like tell me and I’ll pay for it” like I just wanted a surprise 🙁 and something actually just worth it the same way I’ve spent money on him (I’ve also bought all our sons presents)
Stop buying him things - return what you got him and treat yourself. He sounds ungrateful and degrading to be honest. Wouldn’t stand for it.
Same here! No push present that was promised, no birthday present or even card when I did that for him 4 days pp, and no Christmas present. Could have written this post myself cause it’s not like he struggles for money either! Xx
that’s what I decided I will be doing x
Good on you! ☺️
same here. Return what you got him and stop making his lunch. Make him miss what he couldnt appreciate
Same with my baby daddy. It annoys me so much because I only make $1,200 a month and I pay half the rent $600 plus our storage unit $228 which he doesn't help me pay half on it. He makes close to $3,000 in a month and only pays $677 in rent and that's it. He blows all his money on his friends and going out and casino and doesn't give me any money no gifts for kids and I. He doesn't even do anything with kids or takes them to eat out or do anything fun money wise and it's sad because he used to be a family man
Keep his present a secret and then when you open press if he doesn’t hand you one go get his and say well I guess I’ll just have to keep yours, then open it and return it to the store
My husband used to be the same and I just told him he has to buy me a present this year because he also skipped my birthday gift. So we went out and got me whatever I wanted. I prefer this to surprises because he actually sucks at gifts 😅, but point is you need to be more direct and tell him this just won't do
Absolutely don’t give him anything. Return the gift and keep that money for you and the baby. Don’t buy him anything else from now on. Your priority will always be you and the baby.
My bd was the same. Never bought me a gift cuz it’s a waste of money but I always bought him christmas and bday gifts. I say keep his gift for yourself or return it and use the money to buy yourself what you want.
I told him what I want for Christmas I don’t think I can be any more direct 😭😂
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