caught my bf vaping… again

you have the right to be upset for him lying. all i know is i have quit and it is one of the hardest things i have done sad to say. Maybe take the angle of going to the store with him to get patches or nicotine replacements instead & help support his quiting journey. this is the only way he might stop for good. i am NOT on his side but i bet if he’s hiding it he does feel guilty and ashamed. i bet if he thought he could quit he would. so maybe if yelling at him or being disappointed with him b4 didn’t work try this time to support him or help him take the steps to begin quiting for good. i know it’s easier to do something with a partners support. my partner went to the store with me to get nicotine gum and a no nicotine vape to wind me off. then i felt i could confide with my bf and tell him when it was getting hard. we would then do something to get my mind off it. i know ur angry and u have a right to be but just a thought if last time did not work. It’s easier for me with support.

it is extremely hard to quit as it is an addiction. if you haven’t been addicted or quit successfully it can also be hard to see the other persons perspective 100% but every person is different. I would try to have a conversation and find out why he is doing it again (more stress, sudden cravings, how long etc) you don’t want him to be hiding or afraid to tell u things. so maybe this will help❤️again not siding with him just hoping this may be able to help you momma!!

so last time this happened i was super supportive and asked him how we could figure it out together and we worked it out and he promised to talk to me next time he had cravings and now this. i’ve been through him during the addictions and during the recovery and during the relapses and i feel like i’ve tried every angle and it’s just not enough

My sister tried to quit vaping multiple times. She's tried quitting smoking cigarettes and went to vaping. Her BD stresses her to no end plus she has had recent situations happen to her to where she deserves a cigarette. But it's disgusting and she knows she can't be around our son with the cigarette smoke fumes coming off her. So she switched back to vaping but is even trying to not do that. Yes, he lied. But it could be worse. He could be reeking of cigarettes and your baby could be breathing that in. Not trying to fully justify. He should own up to his actions and be honest about it. It is a dumb thing to lie about. But honestly I have a THCA vape that I secretly bought myself because my husband "shares" his THC vape with me but only gives me a puff or two a week while he's constantly hitting it. I have been hiding it from him, mainly because anytime I share something with him that will last me multiple months, it dwindles down to a week or less. But that's my reason for hiding my own shit.

Just ask him if there's anything going on that's making him stressed to the point where he's vaping. Sit him down and let him know it was cool to lie about, and it was something he didn't need to lie about. And that he can come to you with anything he needs to express emotionally. As men they are so stubborn and never want to share their feelings about things unless there ends up being an argument. So, maybe he's starting up again because he's stressed about something. But he's hiding it because he knows how you don't approve and is probably scared to tell you.

Men are the biggest manipulators and know how to make their mistakes our fault somehow? Victimizing themselves even though they're massively in the wrong.

Stress is a dumb ass excuse to smoke. Do smokers think non smokers don't stress?

Naw. Keep him out. Tell him to come back when he's quit and maybe you'll consider being together again.

I wouldn't tolerate lying to any degree