Do you let your toddler go out in pjs if they throw a fit?

He's been in her room trying to compromise for 5 or 6 minutes and she's still crying because she wants her pjs back on.

You’re right, she can’t go out in pj’s. Is there an outfit that has a similar print she could wear? Otherwise don’t feel guilty at all. You are the parent. I’ve seen parents that cave and eventually those kids can’t take being told no, so I fully agree with you.

@Chloe I tried! She wanted bluey so I got her bluey dress in almost the same color but she kept crying. We did finally get her into pants but it was a struggle 😅

aw I feel for you, my friend is dealing with her daughter (9 yo) having fits when they’re trying to leave, I imagine it’s hard when they cry. I don’t have kids tbh, I’m still trying 🤣 but one of the things I’ve seen is when my friends try to give their kids choices instead of just saying how it is, their kid starts running the show 😳

I give my son three choices for clothes he picks one we work with it and he loves it. He doesn’t get choices on everything but we do give him choices on certain things. Like shoes, clothing, foods depending on if we are eating things with choices ( ex: what vegetables, fruit, and proteins) my son is super independent so giving him choices instead of choosing works well for us. However I don’t feel like the caving in to her when throwing a fit about getting out of pjs is okay. My son did that often when it was clothes or food so we started having him chose things. It was hard one thing I realized was having him pick made him less picky on foods but also got him to stop crying with outfit changes.

@Keyara I do give her options with clothes. Today was just a rough morning and she didn't like any of the options

I always over hear my husband asking our daughter if he can wash her hair when he is doing the bath. Like dude it’s not up to her!

If you don’t want her to wear pjs I suggest getting her more comfy clothes. My 2 year old is sometimes hard to dress like a full blown fight about it. Since I’m more stubborn than he is, he eventually gives up he knows I won’t stop because he has school and therapy, so he has to wear regular clothes and tbh if he didn’t wear diapers I’d dress him the night before

@Kimberly she has a ton of cotton leggings that are super similar in texture to her cotton pjs but maybe I need more fun colors

I have this with my little girl! She hates getting dressed but she has to she’s 4 we’ve talked about it; on a Sunday all of us me her and her baby brother gets bathed/showered and put clean pyjamas on because we don’t go out on a Sunday. But during the week she has nursery and I get me and the baby ready first and leave her cos I know what’s coming, most of the time I have to physically wash her and get her dressed and if she doesn’t get dressed I put her clothes next to her and say ‘get dressed yourself then I tried’ and she’ll kick off and cry and ask me for help. It’s the only way she’ll get ready. But I wouldn’t actively let her out in her pyjamas unless 1. It’s early in the morning and I need a quick shop run or 2. She wants a bath in nanny’s and we go early in the morning. But just because she wants to it’s a big no from me.

My eldest is nearly 6 and loves to have a pj day. She often goes out to the shop in her pjs with boots and a coat on. Let them be kids

No unless they’re going to stay in the car or not get out of their car seat / stroller .at two the pajamas that I purchase are mostly footed so that won’t do if they’re going to be out walking etc. but just generally speaking my toddlers don’t run our home … my husband and I do 🫠🥴

I let her stay in pjs if I have to run a errand very early in the morning 🙈 but I get it, sometimes you have to stand your ground

You should definitely put your foot down as she needs to learn that there are rules in the world and that she needs to listen to what you tell her. However I totally get it - you need to pick your battles sometimes and life can't be one big argument. So sometimes you might give in and just let her have her way, but it shouldn't be every time.

Offering choices is a really good way of letting kids feel like they have a say in things, and I feel it works with my daughter - keep at it

I am struggling with my daughter as well when it comes to dressing her up, I often give her choice , she will choose and after 10 min she would scream to take this clothes out...we have a lot of nice clothes for her , but she is not allowing me to put it on, and is hard for me to tolerate her cry and her movements

for my son the way we got him to accept the choices was letting him go full reign on clothes like if he wanted checkered pants and a crazy shirt with slippers he wore it. Have you guys tried letting her show you what she wanted to wear from the closet? I’m sorry your struggling with this! I know it’s hard! Just hang in there!

Honestly, it’s not worth the fight at this age. I would rather fight with my toddler about things like brushing her teeth and being clean and playing safe and learn how to be a person. It’s all personal preference on what you want. Personally I think it’s a bit too much.

If you really need her to be dressed in an outfit let her help choose.

Depends on the day I guess. When I don’t feel like it’s that big of a deal (going to Mimi’s, doing drive through, quick trip to like dg or something) then I don’t care what she wears. But other times when we are going in somewhere (daycare, store, doctor, outside, places to eat or play etc) then she needs clothes. Sometimes I just let her pick it out tho and it goes smoother

Thanks everyone. To clarify we were headed out to daycare so she needed to be dressed (to me). I appreciate everyone being kind!

I let her out in PJs (specifically the princess nightgowns) sometimes if she asks nicely. But not if she throws a fit - if she’s throwing a fit, I stand my ground. Your husband needs to be more firm, you can be nice and gentle while still maintaining the rules. “I’m sorry baby, we can’t have a paci right now, but let’s go read some books together!”

No I don’t let my daughter out in pjs! She has to get dressed that’s a non negotiable. I think it’s absolutely fine to have some boundaries and they will be individual to each house hold so I don’t think your being too much 💗. I think the main issue here isn’t your boundary it’s that you and your husband don’t seem to be on the same page about where your boundaries are with regards to this so she’s probably getting a bit confused as to what is allowed and what’s not which is why she will be melting down I would defo speak to him about it ❤️! X