I’m pregnant but idk if I should keep it
So I recently found out I’m pregnant I already share a child with my partner and he is two years old. When I first found out, I automatically thought abortion, but the more I think about it I kinda wanna keep it, but I know that my partner won’t think it’s the right time financially and logically it probably isn’t.
I grew up as an only child, and I’ve always said I wanted my child to grow up with siblings close to his age, and I feel like as my son will be three in July. It will be perfect for him to have a sibling roughly 3 years apart, he said he wants to have kids when our son is five and I feel like that’s just really far away and the age gap I don’t really like.
Obviously we’re a team and I want us to both be excited for this, as when I had my first son he was away and I kind of had to do my last pregnancy on my own. So I want us to be excited and I don’t know if eventually he will get excited or he’s just gonna resent me for this.
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It's up to you completely! Unfortunately, we can only give you advice. Think about why you're wanting to do it, see if there are anything that you can get or do to make it easier, but if not it's completely understandable! You probably can't do it in Texas so you would have to travel for the procedure if you do decide to go down that route
At the end of the day, honestly.. no matter what happens down the line, it’s you and your baby forever, good moms dont just walk away even when other people do. You never know what the future may hold, and God willing if you will be able to conceive again and have a healthy pregnancy and baby… its ultimately your choice and nobody elses. You will be the one going through the motions emotionally physically etc from an abortion or a pregnancy. If you deep down want to keep the baby and in your heart you feel its what you desire dont let anyone take that away from you. If he doesnt support you, hopefully you have family/friends nearby that will. Having just had my second( 5 yr age gap), I still dont feel you are truly ever “ready” for a child because you dont know what that journey will be like each time. Either way you decide, youre still a great mom ❤️
Whatever you decide, this is your journey, and there’s no right or wrong answer—just what feels right for your family. Give yourself grace and time to make the best choice for everyone involved. You’ve got this. X
Is there ever a right time? It sounds like you have good reasons to keep it, especially as it means your son will have a sibling with a close age gap. I think you need to discuss with your partner and be honest about how you feel, you never know- he maybe come round to the idea and give you more support this time. But everything you’ve said so far sounds like you want to keep it and I think you’ll be happier if so. Good luck and I hope your partner becomes more excited! X
You both should discuss this. . Yes its your body but its BOTH of yall’s child and life that will be affected. Think about if its worth it mentally, physically, financially, emotionally think about if you want to bring another child into the equation if all of that isn’t in good standing . Discuss it with him , express your feelings and allow him to have his as well . Despite what happens I wish you the best ✨
Sorry you’re in this situation, I’ve been there before so if you want to talk to me feel free to message. Like others said, yes you’re a team but ultimately it is your body. I really hope you’re able to come to the best decision for you and that he will support you in either decision x
Hey, I personally think if you’re not wanting an abortion you’ll resent your partner for the rest of your life. The emotional toll it has on you can be life long, and you’ll blame him for that. I know someone who wanted their wife to abort their baby - they had lots of arguments about it, but the wife ended up keeping it and that child is now the husbands favourite child.
Personally I’m pregnant with a second child, close age gap and I’m terrified but I know my son will thank me for keeping this baby so he has a brother to grow up with close in age. The first couple years will be hard, but after that they’ll be playing together and supporting each other etc, and that’s what I look forward to!
No judgement but I feel like you’re already pregnant now so if there’s not a really serious reason (or you feel super against having another baby) then you may aswell keep it - things don’t always happen when you’d like them to but I always feel there’s a reason it happens when it does! If you’re gonna have another one anyway then there’s no point getting rid of one that’s already there, if when you started trying in a few years and found out you couldn’t get pregnant, would you be regretting that you terminated this pregnancy?
It’s always going to be hard so just get it over with sooner and have your body back sooner lol - again no judgement it’s completely your choice x
really love your message thank you hun x
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