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Pregnant again after a missed miscarriage, any tips on how to shake off the nerves? I’m so worried/scared

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I would just keep telling myself I'm still pregnant until proven not. One day at a time xx

Find distraction, I’ve found going on a walk helps clear my mind but unfortunately nothing can help with it! I’m in the same situation! Xx

Firstly, Congratulations. Was there in the same boat, but the only way I dealt with it was to live my life not getting ahead of myself. I pretty much lived in denial tbh. Until 12w don't think about it. Don't celebrate your pregnancy, don't talk about it, nor dream of holding the baby, nothing. Just eat healthy n carry on with your life like nothing's happened yet.

Buy yourself a doppler. If you're lucky you could start hearing the heartbeat at 10w, but chances are too low, so maybe around 12w you can hear better n feel relieved during the times of anxiety.

All the best, it's gonna be hard. But there's very little you can control, and worrying could only harm you n the fetus. So better to just distract yourself or sleep through the worrisome days.

I did the complete opposite, i celebrated every detail. My first pregnancy I didn't announce to anyone until 3 months. My second i announced just to close friends and lost it at 10w. Then i was announcing the loss instead. So I realized i didn't talk about my first because i could lose it but when i did lose one, i wanted to talk about it. So on my rainbow pregnancy, I'm just trying to live it without concrete plans. I'm not buying things or planning a mat leave but i am thinking about names, living the symptoms and loving my baby everyday. I'm still pregnant until im not, i love that and while it's nerve wracking to wait until the next scan, I'm trying to focus on the chance that all will go well

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Oh my God, oh my God I hope this is not true!!!! I’m kind of scared

I’ve been throwing up and taking a shit all night!!! I just hope that it’s not what I think it is

Small head reported following 20 week scan

Has anyone else had it flagged that their baby is in the bottom 5th percentile for head size?

They said everything was fine whilst we were in the scan and then I got a phone call the next day saying that it’s on the small side and we’re being referred to a paediatric specialist at St George’s. Has anyone else had this and how did things go??

Would you bring 9 week old to a family party of 35+ people?

These are also people who will want to pass the baby around and get a turn to hold him. He just got his 2 month shots two days ago

Exercise 6 weeks after c section

What movement did people start to introduce? I won’t do anything too vigorous until I’ve seen the pelvic physio as I don’t want to compromise anything that may have been extremely weakened through pregnancy! But just wondering what types of classes/movement people started off with?

Induction experience

I just wanted to share my experience with being induced as I wasn’t sure what to expect and thought it may help others.

I opted for the foley balloon which was inserted at 8am Saturday morning, I had to stay in hospital due to hypertension and protein urine however usually you can just go home once this has been done. The insertion of the balloon was not painful, was slightly uncomfortable as there was slight pressure. I actually found having the cervix checked prior to be worse (again not painful at this point just uncomfortable) The balloon had little effect and after having it removed I was still only 1cm. Removal also was pain free and hardly even noticeable.

I then had my first dose of the gel and definitely noticed a difference, I started experiencing period like cramps almost immediately however they were light and manageable. After 6 hours I had another cervix check and although my cervix was soft it was still only 1cm and was only open at the front. I had another dose of the gel and felt an increase in pressure and more intense cramping where I now required pain relief (codeine). After another 6 hours I had another cervix check and I had now dilated to 2-3cm however was still quite difficult to get all the way through so a third gel was recommended which I agreed to.

Almost immediately I noticed the difference and was in considerable pain, I had paracetamol and codeine however the contractions had now become intense and a lot closer together (around 3 minutes apart). After a couple of hours I had my last cervix check and was 4cm and taken down to the Labour ward to have my waters broken and an epidural.

I had been in my room for approx 20minutes when my waters broke by themselves and I was now 10cm and actively pushing…. There was no time for the epidural and my beautiful girl arrived into the world within 2 minutes of pushing.

All in all I would say the cramps/contractions were manageable up until the third gel where it became pretty unbearable however it was for a very short time a gas and air helped take the edge off. The worst part about any of it was actually the later cervix checks where after stimulating the cervix my contractions were at their most painful.

If I had to be induced again I would skip the balloon and opt for the gels immediately as thy had a quicker effect and I would have been out a lot sooner if I had done this to begin with.

One more thing, I’ve never believed when people say “you forget the pain once they’re here” but I can honestly say this is true. It’s been 4 days and I would do it all again in a heartbeat.

It’s my birthday tomorrow.

Ok so I am going to be 35 years young. I can’t believe how much this life has thrown at me but it’s okay I’m a survivor. I am truly blessed to be alive. 🥳🧁🎂 The only downside is I won’t be celebrating my birthday because my man can’t take me out. So many emotions right now.