Baby doesn’t have their own room

I’m so sorry to hear this, it’s not right working mothers deserve help too and they just don’t get it. Living up north is so much cheaper, have you ever considered moving more north so you’re in cheaper areas but also still in a few hours drive for the father?

Hey my love I was and still am in the same kind of situation. My daughter has her own room but my son don’t and by law they can share up to 10 years old but I’m not comfortable with that. I also used to struggle so much with fresh food until I head about healthy start working or not you might be able to get it won’t hurt applying. Definitely look outside of London since it’s a lot cheaper and you get more for your money. Never feel guilty when you’re doing the best you can! Bubba won’t remember if she had her own room only the memories you creat with her. Please feel free to drop me a message if you need to talk 🫶🏼

Moved outside of London for this reason and have a 3 bed house instead of 1/2 bed flat.

If your job is WFH it’s worth looking outside of London. I will only have to travel in twice a month.

If you have family outside of London have a look close to there as it’s so important to have a support network.

Also, I hope dad is paying a fair amount of support…

Firstly, you are doing amazing by even being able to afford a one bed flat in London on your own, London is EXPENSIVE so try not to be so hard on yourself.

If you were open to relocating then definitely another vote for up north, there are towns in the north west, where I live, that are easily commutable to Manchester, Liverpool, Chester etc and very affordable xx

I do have a HA home but only 2 bed as my son is 7 and we moved in before I was pregnant with my daughter so we only have a 2 bed. And so its going to be for years where my daughter will be in with me, they won’t share either cus I think its unfair on him as he’s so much older so we just gotta make do! Most probably they will have their own rooms and I’ll sleep in the living room as they both get older x

as others have said, if possible to move ot of London do it!
another option would be a pull down bed in the living room. My friends parents had that and wasn't an issue.
I also had to share a room with my mum until I was 7 years old. She put up a room divider screen so I had my section and she had hers. I do feel at that time it wasn’t uncommon to need to share bedrooms but there’s a lot of pressure nowadays to have more space.
For food you can try those wonky veg boxes, too good to go from supermarkets or buy frozen.

Hear you hun. Don’t worry, baby doesn’t need her own room for a long time. They want to be close so it works out.

Also, you’re paying 60% tax not 40% because that’s how it actually works out for high earners so go easy on yourself. You can claim some of this back from HMRC so worth looking into as this money could help.

It’s really tough being a high earner and getting no help with childcare costs and paying most of your salary in tax to fund other people’s childcare etc. Studies have shown that we’re worse off when all costs are factored in so truly don’t be hard on yourself. It’s the system that nobody prepared us for, an archaic patriarchal one.

You’re doing a great job, especially as it sounds like you’re solo parenting. Be kind to yourself, and explore any potential options, this too shall pass 😘