Cheating BD
This may make someone else feel better about their situation lol.. just venting.. my bd is currently living at his “friends” place 300 miles away. Sleeping on her floor. We started dating 2 years ago, he is textbook narcissist. Made me fall in love and then I soon found out he is insane. I think he may even be a fraud. He was amazing, house on the beach, super successful, paid for everything, extravagant lifestyle, good looking, brilliant man truly. He is still technically married in the midst of divorce. His last marriage ended because he cheated on his ex with her bff. Him and his ex have a 6 yr old daughter. Fast forward, I get messages from the ex’s bff (his mistress from first marriage) telling me they are basically in a relationship THE WHOLE TIME we had been dating. He of course manipulated me into thinking she was lying and blackmailing him threatening if he didn’t talk to her that she would have his daughter taken. Fast forward a whole year to April 2024, I leave for a family vacation he was supposed to come on and he didn’t come. The mistress was AT OUR HOUSE. She sent me pictures of her drunk on MY BED. She slept in my bed. He told me she “broke in”, beat him with a baseball bat, broke every single photo of him and I, and stole all of my lingerie. It was so creepy. She told me he invited her to stay because I was out of town. I didn’t know who to believe. I called his ex wife to tell her because by this point her and I were friendly. That weekend ended with the ex wife getting involved and taking his daughter to another state. Long story short. His ex now has a restraining order on him. He then AGAIN manipulates me into staying with him and now I am pregnant. He is also an alcoholic. He lost his home, his business, his car, all of his money he spent. He is dead broke and manipulated me into believing his business manager stole everything. We went to our storage unit in Los Angeles on Jan 1, he got wasted and caused a scene at our hotel threatening me and scaring me so badly I had to leave him there. He has been there ever since and has not come home. And guess what, I just found out from the “friend” he is currently living with that he is STILL cheating on me with the ex’s bff. I have to end this before my baby arrives in April. It’s the hardest thing to do but it has to be done for the sake of the baby’s well being. I feel for everyone out there being cheated on while pregnant. It’s the most twisted betrayal ever. 💔
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Omg this is horrendous behavior! You need to cut him out completely. I think if I was you I would also leave him off baby’s birth certificate so he can’t try and get custody or anything. You need a clean break! Well done for seeing the light, hope you can get the support you need at this time!
This should have been posted in the Hot Mess Express group 💯‼️ Because wtf.. I can’t believe you ended up pregnant by him AFTER all the stuff you had already found out!! You completely missed all those red flags!!
I feel so stupid for staying with him but he completely depleted me as a human. I lost all my friends, my job, my apartment bc he convinced me to move in with him even though he KNEW he was being evicted. He had me under his spell. It’s just so insane and the mistress lies for him now too. It’s like a game they play to make me feel crazy. It’s heartbreaking.
Thank you so much 🙏🏼 I think I am going to leave him off the birth certificate. Whenever I bring up the cheating he flips it on me and calls me a wh*re and tells me it’s not his baby. I haven’t been with any other man since we started dating. It’s just like dagger after dagger to my heart.
Is his name Dan? And is he English?
I'm guessing not, but omg this is almost exactly what happened to a friend of mine. Almost identical. Crazy
I'd keep a record of everything he says to you incase it's needed in future. For a completely clean state could you get a restraining order against him so you can truly start a fresh. I'd suggest reaching out to your friends and family you lost, you may be able to rebuild those bridges if you explain what's been happening. Xx
Only you have the power to end that game!! I hope you find your way out of this entire situation! It’s scary that you’re still attached to these people to say the least!
no his name is michael in Los Angeles
I saved all the insane texts of his threats and wishing death on me and the baby. Telling me he will kill himself too but he would never do that bc he is soooo obsessed with himself. It’s just a really crazy situation and I feel so numb to it because typing this out right now he sounds absolutely crazy lol and he is. I should get a restraining order idk what is holding me back. He has me soooo deeply manipulated there is like still a little hope left in me he will change! I am delusional! Ugh 😩
It's because your under his spell. The fact that you are talking about it is a step in the right direction to leave. You will leave him, just when your ready. Keep walking in the right direction and you'll get there. X
For a second I thought you were talking about my bd lol . I’ve been in the same situation a year ago . I left 6months after my daughter was born then ended up finding an amazing guy that I am now married to. LONG STORY SHORT LEAVE THAT MAN ! Then HE WILL LEARN
ugh thank you I need to hear this 🙏🏼 so so happy for you. This gives me hope
My ex used to do the same, accuse me of cheating whilst he was off with other women. Honestly cut him off cold is the best way just get him out of your life!!
it’s exhausting trying to defend myself against completely false narratives. Such a mind f*ck ugh. Trying to cut him off cold 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
You’ve got this! Be strong, go deep inside and channel all your inner strength. Call on people you trust to support you through this. You owe it to yourself ❤️
If you think it would help I found shamanic healing so helpful for reclaiming my power! And severing the emotional ties with him.
that is great advice thank you so much I’ll absolutely look into the shamanic healing ❤️
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