Breastfeeding anxiety

I haven’t had my baby yet but I’m so anxious about breastfeeding. Idk why but my breasts have always been the most sexual thing about myself, it’s always been the one way my husband and I “get started” and idk why I cannot shake this weirded out feeling that my baby is going to be sucking on my nipples. It almost gives me the skin-crawly heebie jeebies. I think it’s so beautiful and amazing when I see reels about breastfeeding, but then I think about myself doing it and I just don’t get that warm fuzzy feeling. Will this change once baby is here? Am I a bad mom if I just say no to breastfeeding right from the start and go straight to formula?

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First off, you’re not a bad mom! Your feelings could change once you have the baby but maybe not and formula fed is just fine

Totally normal feelings! And you are definitely not a bad mom for thinking this way! If you choose to breast-feed, keep in mind that your hormones will shift a lot and the way you feel in reality may be much different than how you feel just thinking about it hypothetically. There may be a period of time while you are breast-feeding that this part of your body does not feel sexual to you anymore, but that won’t be forever.

Not a bad mom. I had similar feelings, decided I will try to pump as long as I can and then go to formula if needed. Or even do both. Haven’t decided but am 100% certain that I will not be nursing. Don’t let people make you feel bad either, I was made to feel horrible when I said I wasn’t going to nurse/BF but ultimately decided to do what is comfortable for me because in my opinion I will have a better time and a better bonding experience if I’m not forced to do something I don’t want to do.

Fed is best and that’s all that matters! As long as your baby has a full belly it doesn’t matter how they get the milk whether it’s from breast feeding, pumping, or formula

I say take it as it comes! When the baby comes and you try it and not feeling it then pump and give it to your baby in a bottle!

love this, thank you!

I had the same thoughts before my first and honestly after she got here and we attempted breastfeeding my thoughts around it completely changed. It’s completely different in my opinion but I had to attempt and experience it to have a different perspective

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