Unhelpful partner

Anyone else feel like a single parent or that they would be better off if their other half went back to work?
Baby boy is 5 weeks old and most of the time recently I feel like it’s only me showing up.
He’s EBF and recently wants to feed all the time and I can’t put him down for naps cos he just wakes up. But due to this the house is suffering - dishes piling up, mountains of washing to be done and put away, dust, crumbs all over the floor, bathrooms a mess, bins overflowing. I do what i can one handed but all my partner does is have a lie in until 11-12 and rot on the sofa. I can only ask for things to be done so many times before I just give up because mentally I’ve too much on with the baby. He tells me to tell him what needs to be done, and then says it can wait or he’ll do it another day - or moans at me for micromanaging him. Or blames his adhd or says he’s tired.
He’ll take the baby whilst I have a quick shower/go to the loo or walk the dogs for 20 mins but as soon as I’m done he’s like ‘he’s hungry’ and hands him back. Like there’s no effort to console him for 10mins just so i can get dressed properly/not have to rush. Then when i do get him back he’s wet his nappy which i need to sort before feeding. 🙄
I’ve told him today the house is a tip and it’s getting to me but I’ve been told I’m overreacting and he’s stormed round doing all the jobs so loud which just makes me feel crap.
Feel like I’d be better off if he wasn’t here and I could just ask my mum/in laws to help as they’re actually useful and can see when jobs need doing.
Virtual hugs needed 😢

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Sorry to hear this , I hope you can get some more support. Can you have chat with your partner and ask him to step up with some help

Sending hugs

Sorry to hear this. Sounds like you're doing a great job. Tell him you haven't got time to look after 2 babies xx

Message me if you’d like to chat hun, totally get it! Xxx

Exact the same as me. I literally do everything, taking them to appointments, sleepless nights, house work, partner doesn’t help

My love you have 1 baby to look after not 2. You’re doing an amazing job.
ADHD and tiredness don’t absolve him from parental duties.
Could maybe try pumping to give yourself 20-30 minutes break and HE can feed baby? Sending love 🤍

I feel you I’m the same…feel free to message x

Sending lots of hugs and love! I'm in the same situation with my partner and it's not nice at all! xx

Sorry that you’re going through this. I totally feel you, my partner was like this when I was almost 5 months pregnant and was working full time and just couldn’t keep up with the house my job was very demanding. We had a very big nasty fight and I just decided to pack my bags, my flight tickets were also booked to go back to my parents home. That’s when he realised what’s at stake here. Sometimes they take us for granted and it takes them knowing they could lose us to wake up once and for all. He has mindfully changed himself through out the last 3 months and it’s been a complete 180 degree change. He is a different person. Just knowing he could lose his wife and child at once just because he is lazy is what took him to realise a lot of things I kept saying politely.

Not got any advice as 11 months down the line and I’m still in this exact same predicament, but just know you’re not alone with having a shitty partner!! I’m so sorry your he’s being like this to, like another comment also said, I think majority of people’s houses are a bit untidy whilst having a newborn (doesn’t really get much better 🙈) xx

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