How can I get my 5 month old to nap in a less exhausting way?🫠

My LB will only go to sleep being bounced on my or my partners shoulder (not even in the cradle position). He has 4 naps per day, so that's a lot of time spent bouncing an 8kg+ bundle to sleep. I'm exhausted! Not sure how much longer I can do it. I've tried laying down sleepy but awake but he just cries and gets overtired. Help!

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At this age what worked for my tough sleeper was being in a baby carrier for naps. It helped because I didn’t feel locked in a dark room either lol. It felt easier on my body that way. If you’re nursing or even bottle feeding, I would lay down with bub to feed, and help them sleep like that. I personally ignored all advice on “not letting them fall asleep eating”, as I believe if baby is gaining weight it’s not a problem. That was what worked for me

I’ve been reading a little on how to change their sleep associations, for me it’s more feeding to sleep that I needed to move away from. The advice that most made sense to me, while being gentle on them, is to ‘stack’ associations- for me I introduced a rhythmic 4 pats on the bum to 3 shh’s, if that makes sense, and started doing it alongside feeding to sleep. I’ve now started phasing out the feed by keeping her awake then unlatching and just doing the pat and shh pattern and it’s starting to work! You have to stack them over like a month or more and consistently though, I guess anything gentle will take time!

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