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I get upset if I've been hinting I want fun and then he's masterbated yes...but otherwise no.
I think yall could have done stuff together. Like you use your hands or him use his hands to help each other out. I don’t agree with masturbating but men and women have needs. For sure people can go weeks or years or anything like that because people don’t have sex or do anything until after they’re married sometimes. But I think yall can do stuff together. Especially if you didn’t want him to masturbate. So I think yall should talk tell him how you feel and then start helping him out
Masterbation is not sex. I masterbate every night before I go to sleep if I'm not having sex. Everyone should be free to do woth theor body as they please in this regard as long as it's not harming a relationship.
No I don't get upset. It's his body.
@Kirsty he wanted to do it, to see how long he can go without it,
Not unless it was affecting our sex life but postpartum I'm rarely interested so he can do as he pleases 🤣
if his drive is higher than yours it makes sense for him to masturbate. it is a bit strange to me he would willingly not have sex but do that instead. i don’t mind if my man does it if im not in the mood, but it’s usually the other way round for us lol
@Kirsty oh yeah for sure agree. If he wanted to not go without and then ended up doing that that’s ridiculous. Yall need to sit down and ask him what he thinks he wants to not have sex but thinking this is okay..
i don’t get upset because that means i get a night off 😅
@Kirsty Oh no it wasn't like that at all he listened to a podcast saying date your partner get to know them more & not have sex to see if you still like the person, he did go about a week without it then I guess he couldn't control it, but we both made a agreement, we should try it out,
Let him masturbate, you both have different sexual needs. Rather that than cheating. I would even pose for him and give him visuals. Make him feel desired
The agreement was no sex. There was no sex. He's fulfilled a need whilst still doing what he said which was dating you without it being physical....
Most people masturbate so no. If he had an unhealthy porn addiction and it was affecting our sex life, I would. But masturbating in and of itself is very normal, especially if you’re going a month without sex.
Yes I do so we made a promise for him to let me know when he's horny.
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Masturbation in my marriage is cheating! We do it together because our marriage bound us as one. We do things together or not al all.
No, we both are fine with masturbation but we also don't have a random celibacy pact for a month. I would prob think it was weird if he wanted to take a month off from sex because of something he read but was masturbating in the meantime. 🤷🏻♀️
I would be pissed bc I’m always available
My husband doesn't masturbate or watch porn and sometimes we go a week without and he seems just fine. It sounds like you made a boundary and he's not interested in following it tho
Why did you make an agreement? Why would you expect someone to wait because you don't want it?