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I’m so sorry you are going through this, If you are able to call your family and get you back home and it be a safe environment for your LO and you after all you have been through go be with family. But if that’s not your best option go to a woman’s shelter. Your mental wellbeing is important for that baby as much as it is for you.
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I stayed in an abusive physical mental and emotional marriage and relationship for 13+ years. I stayed and stayed and left and took him back over and over. Broken nose shattered phone strangled black eye and more.. it never changes and it never gets better. You have to fight. You have to Know you don't deserve the treatment you're getting regardless of how you feel or if you've gotten used to it being "normal" or "okay". Especially when it comes to Stockholm syndrome as that can effect your choices too. We often go back bc it's all we know. But baby girl, PACK A BAG and get yourself out and NEVER go back. He'll realize what he's lost and you'll realize what you have wasted your time energy and life one. You'll be free. Do whatever you have to do to get away and be safe. And just know you're not alone and you never know how strong you are until being strong in your only option 🩷💔
@Jessie Marie just messaged xx
@Gabby @Christina I might be able to go with family but I’m just worried about be charge with kidnapping and if he tries to fight me for custody he might win because he would seem more stable and he could possibly have help locally.
@Jessie Marie I’m sorry you had to go through that but yes I definitely have it’s normal mindset and this isn’t
I’m so sorry, what kind of std? If you don’t mind me asking
@SONIA I haven’t talked to a lawyer it’s a really tough spot to be in. I have to figure something out.
@Janessa I don’t mind you asking it’s herpes.
Also don't feel so bad about the herpes situation. It SOUNDS worse than it really is. Everyone has the virus in their system it's just what brings it out. People get cold sores. That's herpes just a different strain of the virus. Is it fucked up he ended up giving it to you? Yes. But will it stop you from being with others? No. More people have it than THEY even know. Most can go all of their lives never even knowing they have it unless you have a breakout and are tested or have a blood test that is the ONLY way you can even find out and be tested. I was diagnosed with it at like 21 had a steady bf but ya know he claims he didn't have it n got tested out of town working with no insurance and no Dr. So I know it was bullshit. He actually told me to put like hand sanitizer on it or some shit. It was my one and only breakout ever. I've only been on meds when I was about to deliver my babies for precautions.. but outside of that I've had nothing but a normal and healthy sex life with whoever without issues.
Never had another breakout never contracted to anyone else. You can wear a condom and STILL cacth it. It's usually when there's a breakout but I'm glad you're so open and honest with us so we can help you through this. I responded to you and gave you my info
@Jessie Marie thank you for the kind words and sharing your story as well. It made me realize I’m not alone. It just sucks because he made it seemed like I was the one that gave it to him and he had got tested and was negative. When really he had it a year before started hooking up he took a picture of the outbreak on his phone and I seen the picture. I am slowly coming to terms with it but it to the point I will never have sex again and use my rose or just let my future partner kno before I continue with my bd.
@SONIA that’s true I will call around tomorrow and see what my options are.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this, it sounds like such a difficult situation. But it also sounds like you’re ready to make a change, which is really powerful. Whatever you decide, I’d really encourage you to get some support along the way. Do you have a good support network around you?
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I’m so sorry, you definitely should not stay with him, run away as fast and silent as possible this sounds like a nightmare ..I’m sorry you’re going through this
@Danielle thank you I don’t really have support I have my mom but she’s miles away
what area about are you from ? (e.g west midlands, don’t give me full details) so i can signpost you to a service that may be able to help you 💜
@Danielle Bergen county
https://www.hopeandsafetynj.org i’ve found this if it’s helpful
Leave him and never look back