So sleep deprived

I think I might be the only one whose son doesn’t sleep through the night. Forget STTN I feel like he’s the only one who wakes still every 2-3 hours on a bad night which is lots of nights. Always wanting to muse and not settling easily without nursing. Tried everything from the book on not nursing to sleep, increasing sleep pressure bedtime routines everything except sleep training.
Am I the only one?

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My daughter wakes 5-6 times a night and I have to nurse her back to sleep still. This is every night and used to be 10+ times a night until about a month ago

Nope! My baby will be 1 at the end of the month and I think he’s slept more than 4 hours in an overnight stretch less than 5 times. He’s also a breastfed baby and I’ve noticed that on some nights I can get away with cuddling him back to sleep but usually just nurse him to avoid being up for hours

My 1 year old still wakes to nurse. I've tried to sooth him without nursing, but he just gets more fully awake and pissed. 😕

My baby does the same. Only goes back to sleep faster and easier since we started cosleeping

It's definitely not just him! My son was sleeping with one wake but then we had to switch to hypoallergenic formula and now he's up at least 2-3 times most nights and only his back to sleep with a bottle. Then there's nights like this past one where we're up every hour.

My son does this too. We nurse to sleep for naps and bedtime still, and he’ll initially go down into his crib but after his first wake up he’s in bed with us and will wake up multiple times a night to comfort nurse and settle back to sleep. It’s tough because I haven’t gotten more than 2 hours of straight sleep for months now. I’ve been thinking about trying to stop night time nursing because I don’t think he’s hungry, just calling out out of force of habit - but haven’t started weaning yet 🫠

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Newborn sleep for 9 hours

Hello mamas, my newborn is 6 weeks old. Last night she slept for 9 hours without waking up for a feed. The previous night she slept for 8 hours as well. During the day she had quite a lot awake periods and she was eating well. She also gained 1kg for a month which the midwife said it's very good. Is she okay like that and should I wake her up to feed her during the night?

Crazy MIL??

I’ve always found my mother in law tricky - she has a hideous nervous energy about her and finds everything absolutely hilarious which sets me right on edge. We’ve just had a baby and she came down to meet her. It was very soon after baby was born so we were pretty knackered and I’d suffered bad hypertension in hospital and had had to stay in for a week. She had wanted to come and see me there but I managed to get my husband to say no- she would have not made my blood pressure any better!
So she came to see the baby a couple of weeks after with her partner- who btw had a chest and they didn’t tell us.
My MIL was at her most hyper and difficult. She stayed hours and hours and held the baby all the way though- fed her her bottle (just took it off my husband) without asking and took photos and posted them without asking.
Then I was changing the babies nappy. Baby had terrible nappy rash at the time and was screaming with pain - making me want to cry. My MIL just sat there watching - hooting with laughter. 🫠
But the worst thing is she made these WEIRD comments - there was a photo of baby just wearing a vest and she said she “looked a hussy.” Then later when we were describing about the baby having phototherapy- which was horribly traumatic- my husband said how he tucked her into his denim jacket to keep warm - his mothers response was “ah so she likes a bit of rough???”
I think in her mind she was being really funny but I was appalled by her comments. In the end I made and excuse, went upstairs to have a shower and then sat there until they left. I used to feel fed up and weary at the thought of her but now I feel pure anger. It’s tricky as obviously she’s my husbands mum. She also gave us the deposit for our house and is generally generous in that way. She and my husband have a really odd relationship in my opinion- I’m super close to my fam and they all live nearby so we see them a lot
His mum lives in Devon and we’re in Kent which is something to be thankful for.
After they finally went she messaged my husband and asked to come and stay for a week. Thankfully he has the sense to say no. But Christ what is wrong with the women? Those comments have made me feel so hostile towards her. Should I just get over it??

Baby won’t sleep

Somebody please help me.
She’s crying, I’m crying. Idk what to do. Husband isn’t here rn and my mom’s asleep.
She’s not hungry, diapers freshly changed, she doesn’t seem uncomfortable in any way. She just seems tired but can’t fall asleep. She’s been doing this for a few days now, just fighting sleep. I refuse to let her cry it out and I’m doing everything I know and can do at this time. She’ll take the boob but keep stretching away every few seconds. She keeps chewing on her hand like she’s hungry but won’t eat cause she already did 30 minutes ago. I’m just at a loss and starting to get stressed. Nothing is helping.

Nursery settling in sessions

My little one has just had his second settle session this morning, where I left him for an hour.
He cried for the whole hour I was away and when I collected him he was hysterical an beside himself.
Any tips on how to deal with this as a mum? It upset me so much that I started crying there.

I know it’s normal but it’s so horrible seeing him so upset.
He has another 2 hour session on Thursday x

Sex life postpartum

Hey hey!
Today I am five weeks postpartum. My husband has been counting down the days until I hit the six week mark so we can start our sex life again. Has anyone else been scared to get down and dirty again? Especially after a vaginal delivery. I’m worried that it’s going to hurt or reopen any wounds. And to be honest, I’ve never been a girl with high drive and isn’t something that I am overly excited about.

I have a six week checkup booked at the GP as per my midwife’s suggestion, in which I will organise birth control.

Has anyone else been in the same boat as me? Or am I being selfish by not wanting to have sex anytime soon?

Any advice would be appreciated xx

Nappy recommendations

My little boy has started sleeping for approx 5 hours at night (which I am very grateful for!😴), but when he wakes up for a feed he is often wet through as his nappy can’t hack it for that long. Are there any recommendations for a good overnight nappy that should hopefully contain it?

We are currently using mamia nappies but have also tried pampers and Tesco. I swore by mamia with my daughter, but they must have changed them since then!

Thank you 🩷