How do I take care of my baby on my own?
The separation was solidified today and he’s not coming back. Our child is 10 months. Almost 3 years of volatile arguments, physical abuse, coercion and manipulation. Trauma bonding (forced intimacy and fake apologies after abuse). Coercion to stay after: arguments started over nothing, physical assaults, etc. Still gave him a chance to get it right and allowed him to be a father. In spite of the abuse, he was kindhearted/a kind father more often than he was a literal demon to me which is why I gave him so many chances. He helped a lot after birth while we cohabited. Now that he’s gone we’re alone and I have not handled baby alone since birth. He was my first relationship. I want to shed this trauma and come back stronger but I’m afraid I’ll feel like I’ll need his help again. What do I do when it gets hard?
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@Renny thank you 🙏🏾❤️
I agree with @Renny but don’t forget to focus on yourself when it get hard too. Especially when you’re doing it by yourself, the kids need a stable and happy mama to thrive. You’re children deserve a healthy father. You don’t need his help don’t normalize the abuse for the kids! They deserve a good role model which you can find once you heal. You’re so strong you’ve obviously tried everything you could, its okay to let go! Speaking from experience its ssooo much more peaceful and happy without abuser(s) in your life, once you get over the hope of the relationship working.
@Shala thank you ❤️❤️
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Lean on your friends and family if u have friends on here ask to meet up distract urself or ask for help if they can but be strong u got this u got out don't go back nothing will change