Boy mom vs girl mom

Not sure, but I have both

I think mom's with both are a good balance:)

Sounds like some type of projection based on what social media is pumping out 24/7. I’m a boy mom and I relate with the girl mom traits, maybe you mean the boy moms who have underlying sexism instilled in them? That’s what I think is happening with those so called “bad boy moms”.. or trauma, there’s always a reason. It can’t be 100% every single one is bad lol.. I’m also having a girl soon so I’ll be off the “bad mom” list hehe, but idk why moms can’t just be moms without this boy mom vs girl mom judgement. Think about it you know? It’s rough always having to judge a group no matter what the case is, waste of friendships and energy. Just my two cents, sorry if it rubs you wrong, I myself struggle with judging others sometimes and this is a prime example of what it looks like. It often makes no sense.

I think any parent who makes their child’s gender their whole personality is weird but I don’t think I’ve ever noticed a huge different between boy and girl mums

I think it's offensive to judge a mother based on the gender of their child.
How about we just stop judging others and actually support and encourage other mums.

I am unsure of what makes them a certain way. But I have noticed some interesting patterns in parenting styles. It seems girl moms encourage independence and self-reliance, alongside nurturing qualities. Conversely, I have observed some boy moms appear to foster dependence (making them mama's boys) and prioritize their sons comfort, sometimes to the exclusion of teaching them to be considerate of others. Even I am curious about the factors contributing to these differences.

congratulations on having another child 🥳 I am sorry that you were offended. It is my observation of parenting patterns and personalities. I don't mean to say one is right over the other but I certainly prefer a certain personality type over the other although I have some great boy mom friends.

i am not trying to make personality out of child's gender. Rather just discerning patterns. I am curious to see if personalities define what gender the mothers have or does the gender of the child define the personality. I sometimes notice a girl mom is mentally quite strong while most boy moms are anxious or depressed and are on some kind of anti anxiety medication. That gets me thinking of their attachment styles too.

(1/2) I am sorry you are offended. It is only a curious thought. Not judging but trying to discern patterns.

Leaving just a couple of examples here for the rationale behind my observations.

A boy mom friend once said she would like her 1 Yr old son to grow up and marry an orphan so he comes home for Christmas and not spend time with the girl's family. That was unsettling but it doesn't affect my friendship with her as it doesn't impact my life. But I certainly wouldn't want my daughter having a mother in law who thinks that way.

(2/2) My mother-in-law raised her sons to be very dependent on her, and it seems she expects the same from me. I feel she disapproves of my independent approach to running our home. It's difficult when she insists on being a part of our family dynamics. It is hard for her to let go of that control on her son and hates it that somebody else is running his life (while I am not. He runs his own). I am capable of managing my life, work, and family, but she still tries to make me feel small and secondary to her son's just because she raised them. However, I feel if she had a daughter she would have let her kids go fly from her grasp.

Maybe! I’ve not noticed a difference between myself and friends. I have a daughter, my friend also has one daughter and another 2 have a son and daughter each.

The differences between us I think are nothing to do with the genders of our children they are to do with us as a person/life experiences etc.

Why don’t we just normalise calling ourselves ‘mums’ instead of ‘boy/girl mums’

There are a lot of factors that go into what you are questioning. These traits have to do with the individual woman, her experiences, and how she has addressed her traumas/ triggers. I'm a twin "boy mom" and I am empathetic, kind, resilient, grounded, fun-loving, lively, and confident. Confidence can come off as boisterous and self-centered to an insecure person. I'm not interested in being selfless as you put everyone else's needs before your own, thus doing a disservice to yourself and those around you, especially your children. So self care is important. I'm completely uninterested in making my boys dependent on me, I am a sovereign being, as they are their own individual sovereign beings as well. I also have a very secure attachment style and am not depressed nor anxious. And I have over a decade of coaching practice in my arsenal, unlike the traditional woman, whether they were raised in a single parent or dual parent home.

I’ve not really noticed a difference in behaviour with my friends who have girls or boys. I think some people use language quite differently to describe boys and girls though even if they’re doing the same thing.

Sorry but I strongly disagree. I am a boy mom and we foster a lot of independence in my household and don’t subscribe to gender “roles” like my son will bake with me and help load the dishwasher before running off to crash cars and trains with his dad. At 2.5 he is caring and checks if friends are ok on the playground. So maybe you had an experience but don’t generalize it to everyone. I think we need to stop with reading into the girl Vs boy mom hype beyond its there for the laughs and jokes. Lmao well damn if this didn’t unexpectedly trigger me a bit today 😂

👏🏽 you said it better than me