Living in fear , IM SCARED😭

I think if you can fully document where you got the money from to start your spa business (loan documents, from family) then you do not need to worry. As long as you have proof he can’t hurt you in that way x

I'd be ringing a domestic abuse helpline or accessing a local women's centre so that they can help you create a safety plan for when he's released from Prison and if he does think/do the above things. They'd also be able to explore if you wanted to apply for a non-molestation order. Key things would be to make sure you have your phone charged at all times so you can ring the Police if needed. Nothing can stop him thinking what he wants but you can plan to be as safe as possible when he's in the community. Good on your for being able to rebuild your life after abuse and good luck with your business x

So sorry you have through this and are still have to deal with fears. Good things is in jail. Is the money safe now? I wonder why the police didn't take it as evidence. I have no real idea how to deal with the money situation but these is what I'm thinking:
you could tell the police about it, or perhaps, and I'm only saying that for your safety later, keep it safe for him to buy your freedom when he is out.
You could tell him to leave you alone for the only condition to get his money nut that won't be legal of you to keep it for him, though

but just feels stressful having to live my life documenting and not being free, I want to move on and be free. I did my 2 years of abuse I want to be free

but again they will move me but I'm tired of running, I want to be free I'm tired of running

I don't know if his money is safe it's with his friend. No money was left with me, I'm saying that the friend could run off with his money and could say I took it

Ladies his money is not with me it's with his friend I dint even know where the money is. He told me the money is with his friend. I have no association with the money. I'm saying if the friend robs his money and I open a business the friend could say I took the money and my ex will believe if I have a business because he knows I'm broke so he will wonder how she got a business and it's easy for the friend to say she took the money meanwhile it's the friend that robbed him. Womens aid can move me but I ain't got time to be moving I want a life moving means his still controlling my life and I am tired

Oh I see, you might not want to snitch, but maybe you should tell the police. If the police take it, he won't be able to blame you, assuming they protect the identity of who tip them.
Or can you talk to him and say look your friend are buying stuff with your money just to spook him a bit about it and direct him to them?

If you don't want to move, no one can move you. What they can do is create a safety plan with you based on the fact you aren't moving (which is fair enough) and can look at the non-mol. Otherwise you can't do anything about what he thinks about the money or the business as you can't control him or his friends. You can only plan for what you think might happen to protect you and your family x

I don't know the friends information just his name, I don't know where he lives I don't know nothing I just want to get on with my life

I don't know if the friend is spending the money I don't know anything that's not the issue. The issue is about what I was saying about my business and the friend

Im not sure if I'm explaining the issue correctly

Building a business is not going to happen over night. Keep a record of your funding and if the day ever comes you can show him what you used.
If his friends take his money he will see what they’ve used it for too! Although sadly £200k won’t get much in the UK nowadays!
Can you not ask for some form of protection in addition to this?
I hope you don’t have any thing to worry about though x

this is the thing I don't want to show him I never want to see him ever again in life. His gone to prison and I have no contact with him this man traumatised me for 2 years and I have a new number everything starting my life fresh without any involvement from him

I don't care about what the friends use the money on I care that they will say I took the money

Im really not sure if I'm explaining the issue correctly

Well, as others said, keep record of your loans or whatever source of funds of your future business. You will have these informations anyway when opening a business. Also, you can tell him upfront, I'm opening a business with my money don't come after me if your friends rob you 🤷🏾‍♀️
He already knows is money is with his friends, so I'm not sure why he would think you took it even if they told him that. How would you even do that. But if you still fear, he will believe anything like this talk to the police really. This money should have been taken from him anyway

I won't go contact with him to tell him about my business my number has changed I didn't even know he was arrested and going to prison. It was a police officer that told me his in prison I ain't speaking to him

He would think I took it because of the fact that I will have a business and he will wonder how did she get the money and his friends will say it was me

The money wasn't taken from him because the money isn't with him...it's with his FRIEND

There's a little button at the bottom of the thread of messages. It has free resources that say they may help if you need support r.e domestic issues. There's nothing you can do about what he thinks, only plan for any harm you think you may come to. Good luck with it all.

You have no contact with him, so how will he know you have a business. And a business has records of how it was funded anyway.....Look you seem annoyed at our suggestions, when people are just trying to give you ideas with the little info we have, so just good luck and hope you will have your freedom from this situation

he will see my store front in my area we live in the same area. Our families are from the same area. He will see my business because it will be located in the busy area of our community

I'm frustrated because I'm just tried of the whole thing that he is not in my life anymore and still has somewhat control with the fear. If the post is bothering you that's fine but trauma affects us all in different ways