Do you get this from your OH?
So the other day, I sent my OH a message normally, don't message him really at work. There's days he doesn't contact me, or I don't unless he gets deliveries coming.
I got mad at him saying busy.. He may have been, but he normally responds better to me. I said well I hope that you tell everyone else that you're busy too. I know he can find time to have conversations with other people. But me, it's busy, so since then, I really just like not happy.
Also, if you're busy, you wouldn't respond straight away. For me, it's like you was waiting on someone message. You would have put your phone and then responded later
Something felt off like I interrupted him, so I have not been the same.
I thought we were okay again and also trying to make an effort with us. I just feel I won't bother maybe go get attention elsewhere and do what he does.
No, seriously, I will do what he does now.
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Or he saw the message knew he couldn't properly respond but didn't want you to think he was ignoring it so sent the busy quickly?
@Natalie I won't go into too much, but we have been having issues. Then I felt it we were ending. I had a dream it just made me sad.
Then, the feeling I thought I lost was still there. I was very distant with him, too.
Then we were fine all weekend, and I haven't messaged him like that in a long time, saying you okay. Then I snapped, and he was rude, so honestly, I won't bother now.
That brought back to him, he won't change, and he will push me further away.
No and I’d actually be really annoyed with that response too, I’d have a word with him and say how you feel rather than letting it upset you and he won’t even know
I would just tell him in message or next time you see if that if he is busy then just don’t respond til later because you didn’t like that response. Sometimes my husband will send me answers like that and to me I like it because I know he sees it he just can’t answer yet. I would just talk to him. It really could mean nothing and that he was busy
@Gabrielle My OH works from morning until late at night.
Sometimes I message he okay he might answer then but I am busy now. Normally fine, but had enough.
I know he can answer other people but not me I snapped.
Normally it really doesn't bother me and I focus on getting myself through the day with our lo.
So yesterday I said you need to call me when you finish the first job. He did but everyone can but feels like I disturb him. He was okay yesterday.
There's a lot here going on, so I should be the priority and he been fine since but since feel like I know he chats to other people, I mean other women in his free time.
Like I have said for weeks, I never contacted him all day. Sometimes I am asleep when he comes in. Too tired for anything.
I’m honestly going to not message my bf anymore when he’s working. He insists on doing it, but for reasons like this post as an example, it’s not nice if they put something you’re not expecting even if they are actually busy. I expect my bf to be busy and there have been times because of his job he’s read a message and not replied but then messaged back a few hours later saying he got busy and apologised. So perhaps agree on not messaging each other unless for emergencies or understand he might actually be busy and sometimes you might not get the response you want. I think there could be more to the story since you think he’s able to message others and not you if I’m correct? Or other woman as you stated in his free time? I’d say you’re best communicating that and setting boundaries within your relationship together. If he is able to contact then there’s no reason why he can’t contact you but if he can’t then he shouldn’t pick up the phone to begin with even to type that
@Ali I haven't bothered contacting, although today marks 4 years since having a blessing done in church. I sent on fb and nothing. I won't bother now as he only cares for himself.
Because of how rude he got told him, he is a small boy. Very immature U need someone on my level.he isn't
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