Girl best friend boundaries

Girl, you are not overthinking! What she doing bringing up dreams about him?
Also the fact that it’s an internet friend is a red flag. I would be on my bfs case about it for sure.

Personally my best guy friend I have known since middle school. I have definitely had WEIRD A** Dreams about him in the 20yrs of knowing him. But have absolutely no interest in him other then him being my Bestfriend we’re both married and have friend dates once a month literally just to catch up and talk about the kids there’s not even a hint of anything between us. But that’s just our relationship definitely not speaking for all.

I appreciate that perspective! I definitely understand that the interactions are different for everyone. She hasn’t been with anyone since me & him have been together the past few years and has already (at the beginning of our relationship) make comments to him that were crossing boundaries and he had to let her know he would stop being her friend if she continued. She hasn’t since but still makes small comments. Idk though.

I will say my Bestfriend and I have probably made some questionable comments to eachother. My husband always knows instantly who I’m talking to if we’re on the phone because of how we talk. But if she has respected boundaries since they have been set I would give her some grace as it was probably normal for them to talk a certain way before and now that you guys are together there are new boundaries. But I wouldn’t think to far into her relationship status maybe there’s no good options where she is or any number of things we all know men such even tho my life is full of them! I tell them daily that men suck lol

that’s what I’m sayinnnn !! I’ve been uncomfortable with it since day 1 but don’t wanna tell him who he can/can’t be friends with at all

I honestly appreciate this perspective and will try to keep that mindset when they speak, even if it’s just for my own sanity lbs. She has been mostly respectful from what I’ve seen/know since boundaries were set and my partner has been very open with me about their interactions since so maybe she could receive a bit of grace on my behalf. I appreciate your input!! 🙂

@Jenavi yeah like what response is she expecting?

exactly, was wondering this as well. Because what is the point of expressing it? It feels very odd to me.

if he makes you feel bad about expressing your feelings of discomfort, then his priorities are not straight. He should be more worried about how you feel instead of this other girl.
Would he be okay introducing y’all that way you feel more comforted? My bf has a TON of chick friends and I got to meet and know about every one of them which made me feel comfortable.
He expects the same with my guy friends.

are you sure you ment to @ me?

apologies! Nope not you 😭 so sorry

you’re all good! Just wanted to make sure lol I was like that doesn’t apply to me at all. 🤣😂🤣