What would you do if you found out your fiance was watching porn when you were pregnant and after and haven’t received sex at all and feel like he is doing something else on his phone
My fiance and I have been having some issues recently and we’re almost at the 2 year mark of our relationship and I know I have done things and so have my fiance and before I got pregnant and during the beginning of the relationship we used to have sex all the time like 2 times every day but now after I found out I was pregnant and moved to Texas we had sex once when we moved to Texas and then he didn’t give me any sex until October 2024 and my baby was due November 16th but after I gave birth to the baby I waited the full amount of time to be safe to have sex and I still haven’t gotten sex but I have found out that he jerks off once a week to other girls and I have told him how that made me feel but I don’t think he has changed but I feel like our relationship is better but now that I find out that he could still be jerking off to other girls it just makes me upset and I don’t know if I can talk to my fiance about it cause he doesn’t know I look through his phone sometimes and please no judgment but I really need advice thank you
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Once a week isn’t bad. It’s not good and I know how u feel as well. Just say u had a dream. Be like “ babe, I had a dream u were doing xyz.” It made me feel like ( full in the blanks)
See what he says. Let him know how u feel in this way because then it doesn’t let him know u looked through his phone. And hopefully yall can talk about it. Also, have u tried to initiate? That might help.
Also, if u really don’t want him watching porn u can discourage it by blocking the websites on your router. I’ve done it. lol
I unfortunately don’t have control over the router and I have tried to ask him all the time but he always tells me no and it’s making me feel rejected and I’ve talked to him about it so many times but he tells me that I have burned him out and I understood that so I stopped asking for a bit and then I asked again and he says that he wants it to feel like he doesn’t have to force it and wants it to feel like a reward and when he wants to do it but I’m the one that has a high sex drive and I’ve told him that I’ve been wanting sex with him for a while so it makes me upset cause I feel like he doesn’t want me anymore sense I’ve gotten the pregnancy body and I’m just so upset
Then it might just take time. He has to understand there is a new dynamic. You have a young baby. Sex can’t be spontaneous like it used to be. It might just have to be scheduled.
Or maybe just schedule it in ur head and it might seem like it’s spontaneous to him. ? Men can be so damn difficult.
I’m 15 months postpartum and things are just starting to kinda be ok. lol. But it’s not easy. I’m still nursing. The baby doesn’t sleep solid through the night. It’s hard. But don’t get yourself down. I can empathize w the high sex drive. It sucks. But u also can’t force him. The more we try to force them the more they push us away
If ur in Jersey, I’d say let’s get a coffee
I’m not unfortunately but it’s hard being with my fiance right now cause I feel so rejected and lonely
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