MIL wearing white to our wedding🥴

honestly, from based off experience, it’s best to be completely honest. I feel like with MIL’s as a soon to be In law there has to be boundaries. I mean come on to wear all white with little flowers to your daughter-in-law‘s wedding is a bit much but also I wouldn’t worry too much. It’s your wedding day regardless and with experience narcissistic don’t do well with accountability & literally bypass anything having to do with consideration

It's a given you don't eat out unless asked. I know it's probably to late to change your dress. But I went to a wedding to a friend that had the same issue she went and changed her dress to blk and told everyone to wear white

I’d just tell him to tell his mother, “Why are you dressing in white like a bride to your own son’s wedding?”. Maybe she’s not aware of how emotionally incestuous it looks to others, some boy mums are a bit strange with their sons.

This happened to me! She bought 2 white dresses for our wedding. In the end my FIL stepped in and they got dyed blue

It’s not appropriate but if she goes ahead and wears that dress she is the one going to look silly at the wedding… and everyone is going to think she is trying to upstage the bride (which let’s be honest she just can’t do … coz you win hands down)

I’d tell her to choose another dress. There are SO many nice dresses in different colours it’s not gonna inconvenience her that much to find another dress.

It’s 2025. No one is that dense. Whenever I read these posts, I know the MILs are purposefully creating problems. Send me an invite and I’ll splash her with black paint then run for it. I’m 10000% serious if you’re in Michigan. This is not the first time I’ve offered and it will not be the last.

Have you seen a photo of her dress? There are white dresses that don't look bridal at all. No one is going to be confused on who is the bride... Unless she is a nutcase and shows up in a wedding dress.

Just in case, I would tell the groom to have a chat with the mom. It is weird when a guest wants to dress in white as if there were no other options.

100% confront her. You and your fiance should talk to her together. Let her know “that dress is very pretty, but we would like for you to find a dress that is not predominantly white”. If she argues, I’d throw in the added consequence of “if you arrive in that dress or one that is predominantly white, you will not be allowed to attend the wedding”.

lol my mother in law did the exact same thing. My husband shut that shit down so fast, I just let him deal with her 😂