Does it get any easier?

Hello, to all the moms with older kids. My son is a little over 4 months and he doesn’t let me work, or clean or get anything done.
Does it maybe get easier after a year?
Thanks!

in our community

Housework.

Hello Mamas,
Firstly how are you all?
Secondly during the day, how are you getting housework done? I am so behind its getting me down. (Partner doesn't help)

spicy noodles

my baby desperately begs for my noodles everytime i have my spicy noodles and i feel so bad but i would feel worse if i actually gave it to her lolz

My husband and I had been married for 2 years now. Honestly it’s been HELL. Nothing abusive. We got married one month after dating so you can imagine how that’s going lol. Right now ? We’ve been on bad terms since August !!! It’s march 😭😭😭 he trying but it’s not good enough but I miss him so much ( he’s always away , navy) but as soon as he gets back the fight continues bc it never freaking ended. We’ve barely spoken for 2 weeks and every time he leaves we have a big fight the night before 🙄🙄🙄 I miss him bad but hate him all the same time. I want to stop being sooooo angry with him but I feel like if I stop it will show that I’m not standing on my boundaries 😒😒 he’s been pretty much underway since August… and still isn’t done yet 🤦🏾‍♀️ won’t be until next month… Jesus. Any military spouses ? How in the fuck can you deal with anything when they aren’t even here 🙄🙄🙄

Husband not helping around the house

How do you ignore or take your mind off the fact that your husband is lazy not doing house chores? Yes he pays the bill whatever but it fucking doesn’t sit right with me that you are exempt from house chores just because you pay and all. I’m tired! I’m agitated every day

Am I doing it wrong?

Am I the bad guy if after my husband works 8 hour shifts but I still want to have some time where I’m not having to be on baby duty.

Our 7 week old is very clingy and seems to either always want attention or be held. So I tend to be the one to have to do it. This is hard because I’m the one who is home all day and already doing it all day and I’ll be honest I don’t get a whole lot done because I’m still learning how to do things one handed and when I hit the point where I can finally pick stuff up that’s heavier than a baby I got sick.

With knowing all that is it wrong for me to want some time without the baby. Like if I ask him if he can watch the baby so I can take a shower (which at this point has only been once a week but I’d like to take more) he tells me to hurry up but I never rush his showers. He hardly even watches/holds our baby and often is able to play his game because I’m stuck being the one who has to take care of the baby. If he doesn’t anything it’s because I asked or didn’t give him the choice.

..... divorce or marriage counseling?

2 kiddos, no DV, No cheating. Financially we are okay, slowly moving up in physical stability. However emotionally and physically we seem to hate each other. To be honest I cannot stand him anymore. I spent the whole time giving myself to my newborns, then to him. He can't even tell me I am pretty, or appreciated, or.... anything, besides argue and diminish me. I cannot stand him.

He hasn't been evil.

Do I do therapy (which will be its own fight)
Or just start paperwork?