overwhelming family!

I had a c section at 4.30 yesterday. I have my grandma,mum, sister all inviting themselves (SEPARATELY) To see baby girl tomorrow. The texts are worded like they’re doing me a favour not coming today. I’ve only just got home. The stairs make me feel like I’m going to vomit the pains so bad, I am in a haze on the painkillers and I’m breastfeeding. Not to mention my midwife is due anytime between 8am-6pm tomorrow. I’m so wiped and cba with no idea how to handle this without getting a load of grief.

My body is so so sore :(

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Gosh, so sorry babes. This sounds like they would not be of help at all? Just coming to add more stress.

That sounds so stressful for you! ☹️ could you not just message and say you really appreciate them wanting to come and see you and the baby but you’re not feeling so good at the moment and you could let them know when you’re ready! Sometimes we have to be a bit selfish if it’s in our best interests! Hopefully they understand x

My family were the same! We spent a week in hospital and when I was discharged everyone decided they wanted to visit the day after.
I kept telling them no but they didn’t listen. The only person I said yes to was my mum and that’s only because I felt like I needed her after a long week in hospital.
In the end I just ignored their texts and they soon got the message 😂

Absolutely don’t feel bad for saying no, you have to look after yourself first. Then once you’ve said no clearly just don’t open the door to them, can always ask them to just drop off food supplies outside the door to help instead!! X

I say be firm, say no and stick to your guns until you feel up to it and even then if they visit, they need to be helpful for you (bring food, clean etc) not just cuddle baby! I had an emergency section with my first and we only had our mums over after 3 days and everyone else had to wait 2 weeks.

Just set a boundary. Say you’re really not up for visitors yet but you’ll let them know as soon as you are.

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5 months today🥺

where has the time gone!!!

Just want to sleep again! 🫩

I wake up around 8.30am, have some cereal, meditate/pray for a bit, make a cuppa and then by 10am I’m tired again and could easily nap. My iron levels have been checked and were fine. Is it just me or is anyone else feeling like this? I’m currently 35 weeks pregnant 👀

C - section

Hello lovelies, I’m getting closer to my date of c section.

Can I ask how it all went for you? I felt prepared and now I have this awful feeling what if I bleed out! I’m sure that’s not the case. But I just wondered how it went, and how the aftermath was. I have seen on social media people say it’s horrendous but then I speak to friends and family and they’re like yeah it’s not easy but you can cope! You can walk, etc. I think it’s the unknown… lol!

Also were you all sick during your procedure and did you all get terrible trapped gas? If so what tips do you have xx

Can you see anything? I’m 12 DPO 🙏

My own opinion is that this is inconclusive (can maybe see a vvvfl but could also be an indent too hard to tell) but curious what others see

Princess birthday party

My child will be turning 5 over the summer and they’ve asked for a princess party but keep changing their mind on which princess they’d like to most their party so have said I can choose 🙈 which princess would your child have chosen at a similar age or if you’ve been to a few princess parties which one was best?

cheating dream

i need advice but PLS DON'T JUDGE!!!
last night i had a dream, i always used to dream my partner cheating on me with my friends, or being super mean, but since we had our baby those dreams disappeared. for context, we haven't been able to have sex yet, I'm 12 weeks pp, and my pelvic floor is so tense, and it's awful.
last night i had a VERY weird dream, it was so realistic, and different from others, he handed me his phone, and ask me to help him handle this girl, like annoyed? in the chat this girl was super obsessive, and messaged him a lot before he replied. she asked him to sing a song to her, and he sent her a voice message singing it, and other voice messages i couldn't listen in the dream. i wrote her to stop, and she was angry, telling me he started it. then i confronted him about this (still in the dream) and he changed his attitude, he seemed so guilty and said to me he had deleted some messages. i don't remember much else, but i woke up with the URGE of checking his insta messages. we've been together for 5 years, and I've never checked his phone, and neither has he (that i know if, at least) and contained myself, but I'm still very much concerned about it. it felt like an epiphany, a revelation or smth like that. I know people might think I'm overreacting but i can't get it out of my head, it was so specific.
i though about asking him to show me, but i know he'll be bothered that i don't trust him (i would be too in his place), but if he's cheating he would say that to make me feel bad. also i thought about checking his phone in his sleep, and then ask him to see his reaction, but feel so bad, i wouldn't like if he went through my phone without asking, even tho I have nothing to hide.
please, be kind!!